Okay so this is quite the story NO JUDGEMENT PLEASE I know it gets kinda strange. I started dating a puerto rican man and I really like him. He made me feel like a princess when we went out, always told me how beautiful I was, the conversation was great (he is a history and sci-fi guy) and texted me all the time. We ended up making our relationship official but that only lasted for a week because he said I wasn't texting him enough and wanted to know if I was cheating on him. I was not. Note that he never initiated texts it was always me, so I stopped texting him to see how long it would take for him to initiate conversation, he did not, he just freaked out that I was cheating on him. So then we got into this HUGE fight. I said all sorts of stuff and went the typical female crazy guys always whine about. Well then this other man decides to ask me out. So I tell Chris (who has now stopped talking to me) that I am going to go out with this other guy unless he wants to work things out. He texted me back "Good luck to you I wish you the best, loose my number". So I started seeing this other man. Well then a couple weks later Chris starts texting me telling me that he hopes I am doing okay. I snapped at him "What do you want from me?" then he got mad that I was snappy and we almost started to fight again. It didn't end up in a fight we ended up deciding to be friends. I told him I was still hanging out with this other guy but that he wasn't my boyfriend. Well then he invites me over to his house to watch ghost stories. Which completely freak me out (he knows this) and I came over. He helped me study for my exam coming up, we watched ghost stuff and then started watching a movies "Hitch hikers guide to the Galaxy" Half way into the movie we started kissing and omg there is too much passion between us (at least on my end) so the "no sex rule" went out the door and we ended up having a lot of sex. When we were done we started talking about what had just happened and he said that I had hurt his feelings and he wanted to take things slow with me. He said that he was mad that I had said all those mean things but he was going to forgive me. He said that what had just happened was "just sex" but we could continue to take things slowly because he isn't seeing anyone else. He also wanted to know all about this other guy. So I told him. He asked me to text him when I got home so I did and he didn't answer me back. I ended up calling him to make sure he knew I wasn't forgetting to text and he answered and said he was glad I called him. Then told me to text him in the morning. I texted him this morning and he has not said anything to me. My head is spinning and I need an outsiders opinion because I am too involved and I don't want to get played. But I do not know if that is what is happening right now. I might even be the one who was wrong. I don't even know at this point.
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Well girl one thing I know about Hispanic guys being a Latina myself is you gotta just say things straight out and not be afraid to say it, if this relationship for real and he really wants to work things out you gotta let him know how you feel and him to do the same because if you don't get to know each other as a person Ur not gonna do much well as a partnership expecting each other to read one's mind. Anywho... have an open heart to heart conversation with him about the relationship, but do make sure You know how you feel about it before coming to terms with him and deciding something.
Hope I am of some help, let me know if it worked out if you decided to take my advice :)