I like my current girlfriend. But we've texted every day since like July. I wish her good nights via text and when I'm with other people it's taken away from things. I also like my own space. How do I tell her that I think we should cut back texting, despite the fact I do like her? I don't like sitting around on my days off wondering if some text is coming or when I'm with my best friend on a given night gaming or watching a flick if she's about to text her going to bed.
I don't want to hurt her because she likes intimacy but I need my own space too. I'm a private person and I like lots of time to myself. If I'm anxious about the texting it's too hard.
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I think the best way is to just simply tell her this. Do it nicely, don't scold her like she's crazy. Just let her know that you like her, but texting just isn't your thing, and its taking away from your solo time.
In my experience, girls will either take this in stride or they'll hate you for it. It's just a touchy issue for women since female intimacy is strongly predicated on communication. It by like a girl telling you that you hold hands, cuddle, or have sex too much. That said, the girls worth keeping will understand. I also know this from experience. The girls who always through a fit about this and said something like "you must not love me" turned to be high maintenance psychopaths. The ones who totally understood ended up being the down to earth, mature, and good GF's.
The reality is her habit isn't a good one, especially if its very frequent. A 10min convo every day isn't a huge deal, but if she's texting you 24hrs a day, then that's really bad. As much as I don't endorse judging relationships based on texting habits, there is a certain amount of this that's probably OK and maybe even advisable to do. Her ability to go a few hours or a day without talking to you will probably tell you a lot about he personality.0