I started to date a woman two weeks ago. She was ten years younger, but the chemistry was great. After the first date, we decided to see each other again the next week-end.
Friday arrived, she cancelled one hour before the date, but asked to see each other again the following day.
Then, the next day, she stood me up. I waited for her for about an hour, then called her, but she didn't pick up.
Back to my place, two hours later, I received an email with apologies, to which I replied that we could see each other anytime during the following week, but she would have to go to my city, as I wanted to be sure I wouldn't wait for nothing.
So she did suggest the very next day, and came to the date.
The date went perfectly well, I could find the same chemistry and body language. After the restaurant, we went for a walk, and I grabbed her by the waist. Then I found a romantic place, pulled her against me, she laid her head on my shoulder, I started to kiss her hair.
Then came the time to kiss her. To my utmost surprise, she rejected me harshly, the tone of her voice changed.
Since it was late and I am a gentleman, I drove her back to her place, instead of leaving her to her destiny. During the trip, I asked her what had happened. She didn't want to tell me, prefering to write to me instead. I said it was not an option. Then I could see an anger crisis, followed by some hysterical laughter for a minute. Then she finally told me she was attracted to me, but was feeling I was more attracted to her, and that it wouldn't work.
The next day, I wrote her an email, telling her that if she didn't want to see me, she had all the opportunities to tell me, instead of showing me that she was interested and coming to another date, letting me getting close, then blowing me off so awkwardly and I told her that this behavior wasn't acceptable. I didn't expect an answer, as it was clear I didn't want to see her anymore after what had happened.
To my surprise, she answered that I wasn't a gentleman, and a couple of other insulting things, which made me delete the mail without answering it.
Yet, I am pretty puzzled. I have seen my share of weird dating things, but this was a premiere.
What are your opinions, do you have similar experiences to share?
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I as well agree that the age was the elephant in the room. This would be a good explanation for why she blew you off 2 dates in a row. She WAS attracted to you, so she gave it one last shot and was comfortable, til the kiss. That's when it really got to her again that you were so much older.
THEN you confront her about it in person, which is completely acceptable! The problem is that people are so wrapped up in communicating via text, email, FB, etc, that they are losing their skills to TALK to people in person! It's incredibly annoying.
So, she was too embarrassed and nervous to react normally or tell you how she really felt, instead you got the angry outburst/laughing episode. Poor thing probably just about had a heart attack lol. I still see potential for her to be a nice person, she just doesn't respond well to stressful situations. I know there are many other scenarios, but this is the one I see being the most likely.1
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