I went out on a date with this guy...he asked me out. We went to a cafe, and stayed for a couple of hours. At the end of the date, when the waiter came, my date asked for two bills. I think even the waiter found it a little strange, because when he came back, he put both bills in front of my date. My date proceeded to give me my bill.
So I paid for my coffee (which came to $4). My question is, who should have paid for that coffee? I know that a guy shouldn't be the one to always pay. When I am in a relationship with someone, I never make the guy pay for everything...I pay for my fair share and everything comes out pretty much even over time.
But this was a first date, he asked me out, and it wasn't very much ($4). Would dating etiquette, or at the very least politeness, dictate that he should have taken care of my coffee? He isn't hurting for money...he recently bought a new Audi.
At the end of the date, he thanked me for a nice time, but didn't say he'll call. So perhaps he didn't feel like we "clicked." But even so, wouldn't the gentlemanly thing to do is to pick up both tabs?
What do you think?
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1) He didn't think you clicked, though I don't know, a couple of hours coffee date is a long date if you're not into it. The point of a coffee date is that you can bail out in 30 minutes if its not going anywhere.
2) Its not about $4. But he has more problem getting rid of gold diggers then he has getting women. So by not spending money on dates he filters out women who are into him for his money. If he loses a few decent but traditional on the way, so be it. So its a test.
3) He may have found (or believe) that women find him more attractive when he seems less eager and is more of a challenge, while guys who spend money on women are more likely to seem like they are trying to buy her interest because they're not as desirable.1