I have a couple girl friends who, when they're single, always have at least a couple dates a month. For some reason, all of the guys who have been interested in me have never asked me on a date, it has always been something like "lets chill at my place". As an adult, I feel like I've moved past that age, and I want to be taken on an actual date to get to know the person. So what is it that makes a guy actually want to take a girl on a date?
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Because a lot of guys can't be bothered anymore. I always try to find free alternatives if I can when I date or something low cost because the women out there treat males like they are disposable and it's not a good feeling. Women keep wanting to date at expensive restaurants and such. Problem is the women have no intention on it being serious from the get go. Gold diggers, while they seem rare, are very real.
Taking a girl out in this economy right now is honestly a luxury that is being taken for granted by women and with this "age of equality" being expected to what girls call "being a man" is being translated to other men as "serve my every need and I will think about going out with you... if I feel like it." A lot of guys who have given up on dating are turning to hook ups because it is much less stress free. The girls who hook up are hated by other girls because now guys "can get the milk for free without buying the cow." I don't blame any guy for taking this route at all having gone through the disappointments in dating that I have gone through.
The other guys are just being more cautious. How would you feel if you planned out an extravagant date where you went to a park, dinner, and all sorts of stuff just to have a girl tell you you're not compatible and you later found out she had no intention on being serious with you from the start? Now while girls will tell guys that they should not give up hope and he should keep trying, guys are now saying, "Why am I trying at something that girls don't have to try at at all?" Why should we stick to girls who are "trained to wait for the right one?" all the time when we could find a girl who is capable of taking initiative and actually able to make a man feel appreciated the way he makes her feel that way?
Girls complain guys only want to "use them for sex" while guys complain that girls "use them for everything else." So if you want to date, you gotta let the guy know. Plus you gotta be able to not let him feel like he is gonna get used. Guys are very cautious about dating now. So going dutch is something that girls should also accept as an alternative too. I've met up with plenty of girls who have offered half or offered to buy me a cup of coffee without me even asking. So maturity among females still does exist.4
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