sometimes my boyfriend and I can go for not talking for days and I am just wondering if its normal. I don't text him very often and act quite distant sometimes but when we DO talk, it's always stable and I show that I do like him. I am just very not needy or clingy and quite aloof. I don't care for other guys and I think he gets that. He usually is the one to text me (I sometimes do him). I was way more initiative in the beginning of our dating.
SO, Guys..would you rather have a needy girl or emotionally detached girl? I just don't know how to open up with him ..Ive never really gotten lose to any guy before and I don't know how to change that :/ I wish I was more emotionally available ...
Should I be more affectionate with him? Should I text him more? and show him that I care? I feel like that sometimes I just bottle it up and I don't want to anymore...
whats your advice:)thanks
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Both extremes suck honestly so I would go with neither. However, I would more than likely end up with the needy girl because the emotionally unattached girl would make me feel like a necrophiliac.
Needy girls are annoying as hell. But your situation is just you getting more in tune with a relationship. You should definitely do what you're looking to do(open up, etc). It's not needy. I dated needy. It was a nightmare. She wanted to hang out way too often to the point where I couldn't afford it anymore and then got mad at me for it. Hours upon hours of her rambling on the phone yelling at me and I was never allowed to get a word in(for 30+mins at a time of her rambling) or I was "interrupting."
The emotionally unattached girls make me want to say "See a therapist and work your sh*t out if you want to date." They contribute zero to the relationship and I get super bored.1