My boyfriend and I had the talk last month of moving in together next month. He said he wanted to be with me and I feel the same for him. We met online back in February. Both our online dating profiles were kept private because we decided to be exclusive with one another. He also had invited me for his birthday and said that he wants to go out of town. I requested days off from work ahead of time to be with him out of town. That was last month when I last saw him. I was telling my friends & family how happy I was that him
& I are finally moving in together and that we're going out of town for his birthday. Up until Friday last week, I noticed that he had unfriend me in Facebook and had unfriend me in Instagram yesterday. I tried calling him and he hung up on me and lead me straight to his voice mail. I sent him a couple of messages asking him why he did those things to me. He never replied to my voice mail and texts. I was asking him to confirm with me about him & I going out of town for his birthday and he didn't respond to that either. Today is his birthday. We were supposed to go out of town today til Sunday next week. That was the plan. He didn't confirm with me if I'm going with him or not. He gave me the silent treatment. No texts nor phone call from him. So, I ended cancelling my request for days off and reported back to work this week. We were supposed to move in together next month but he never updates me on what his plans are for that. Since he unfriend me in both Facebook & Instagram and had uninvited me to his birthday/going out of town thing... Are we considered "broken up" already without him telling me? It's been a month and a half since I last heard from him. He won't respond to my texts and phone calls until now. I checked his online dating profile to see if it's up or not. His profile is still private. I don't think he's dating other women. I'm confused. I'm still holding on to his promises. But now it's unclear if I still have a relationship with him or not. I need your advice. Thanks.
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I think he felt it was a good idea to move in with you, when it was just an idea, but then realized he didn't want to, as the deadline appeared.
This is an important step in a relationship, and it usually leads to doubt or questionning.
But his behavior is absolutely despicable. Instead of telling you about his doubt, and eventually postponing, he just removes you from his life.
That is indecent, and even if it is not sure he has broken up with you (even if the clues you gave us tend to confirm that hypothesis), you should understand that he is an immature jerk, and should move on. He doesn't deserve you, or anybody else, acting like this.3