Going for coffee for a first date, should I offer to pay and how do I do that?
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Should you? No, not really. There's nothing saying you "should" or that you need to. If you want to, I suppose you could, but no, there's probably no reason you should. Nothing wrong with it. I say just throw it out there if the cheque comes, or if you pay at the til, just casually say "nah, it's OK, I got this" and put down the money on his order.
Alternatively, you could go dutch as well. Meaning, you pay for what you ordered, and he pays for what he ordered. Though, going dutch sometimes gives the impression that it's not a date, depending on who you talk to. Also depending on who you ask, it might be considered by some that the person who suggested the date in the first place is the one who pays. So if you asked him out, being prepared to pay is definitely a good idea, but if he asked you out, and you payed for everything, he might be surprised, but he probably wouldn't mind.
Yeah, this could go either way. Sorry if that didn't give you a solid yes or no, but I don't see this as a yes or no. I see it as something that doesn't matter too much. You can make the offer, but if he insists, let him pay. How does that sound?5