I am in college I'm on the older side. just seems like I have dated guys how don't take me serious because I am in college. So for guy who are in college or in their 30s what you all think of dating someone in college? Would you take them as serious as someone who has a job?
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I'm 24 and studying at University so I'm surrounded by people who are (sad as it is) younger than me. My last girlfriend, for example, was 18. To a lot of girls who are 18, 24 is a bit old -- if they're dating me they'd say they're dating an "older guy" -- which is an odd feeling for me as I'd never thought of myself like that. So I find myself between younger girls who are looking for someone 18-21 and women my own age who are working full time and/or working multiple part-time jobs.
Obviously I gravitate towards the younger ones with similar schedules to my own, but there's the beginning of a generational gap there. A lot happens in 6 years; when I was graduating high school, they were beginning or in the midst of middle school. On the flip side of that, the older female college students (my age or a few years older) tend to have kids or want them; there are a fair number of single mothers who are looking for a "stable" guy.
So if you're a student at University and between 25-29, even if I show interest in you it'll be with some amount of trepidation. I'll think that, if we become involved, you'll want to ramp things up faster as you sense the ticking of your biological clock. I haven't seen what you mention -- guys refusing to take you seriously -- rather it's the opposite... "older" women wanting to be too serious too quickly.
Basically: I don't have a problem taking a college student seriously, no matter their age. The issue is when they forget that they're in college and think they're ready to start a family... and I'm feelin' a bit like "Whoa. Let's at least wait for the 2nd date." I've had women refuse to date me because I've had a vasectomy -- they're already planning that far ahead. "Nope, not even going to look at that guy, he's not willing to fill me up with babies!" Ignoring the moment that there are alternative ways to start a family, older college girls seem like they're basically shopping for a husband.0