I'm pretty much the one doing all the iniaiting. I gave him my number and I pretty much text first. Whatever I know some people think the guy should take the lead with things like that. Figured I go after what I want.
We've been texting for about a month now. Everything was great until this week he's acting all weird. Like he's not texting back hardly he'll text back for a while then just stop :/ I haven't said anything to upset him or anything so I know he's not mad.
So me thinking I'm talking to much I ask him? And he says no I'm fine. But I think I am I pretty much text him everyday...I just get excited cause I really like him and I love talking to him of course. But at the same time I'm not constantly texting him I send one wait for a reply before I text back and if he just stops talking I try back the next day.
Is this fixable if messed a future relationship up? I was thinking of just letting him be for a few days, and when I do contact him again just space out how I contact him. Maybe he is feeling smothered by my attention I'm giving him...
I just get nervous that if I don't text everyday he'll think I'm no longer interested...
^^^felt good to vent :/
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Honestly, the real issue is that guys generally hate texting. They might do it to GET a girl, but once they have her, most guys hate to communicate that way, especially about relationship stuff. Guys don't mind talking about that stuff, they just want to do it face-to-face. Texting is best left for short urgent messages "I'm on my way, be ready in 10 mins" or for non-critical stuff "party at John's house next Saturday, 8pm-2am."
Texting is NOT for CONVERSATIONS, meaning "How was your day?" or "What is the meaning of life?" or "Did you hear what Suzie did with Jeff?" Conversations should be face-to-face, and if it's SO important that it can't wait, then by voice call.
Having said all that, most guys are pretty terrible at initiating conversations/contact when not face-to-face. It just doesn't occur to guys to text a girl for random conversation, except maybe when he's horny. A guy will usually be doing something else, even if that something else is "nothing" or "thinking" or "figuring out a problem", but it will often be some other mundane thing, like cooking or mowing the lawn.
So... guys kind of depend on girls to initiate conversations a lot, and if you don't, he might not get around to it for a couple of days. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you, or that he's not thinking about you, it means that he gets busy or gets distracted, and because he's a guy, he doesn't feel the need to talk about every little thing that happens in his day. If something important comes up, he'll call or text, but everything else will get saved up until he's F2F with you, which, again, is how guys PREFER to have conversations.1