When I first met him my initial reaction was : wow I kinda like this guy, he is goodlooking, he is interesting. He asked me out and we went for a drink. Before going on a date he went to a night store to bbuy himself a drink and asked if I wanted it as well ... that was cheap atempt #1. After then we went for a drink somewhere, I ordered beer because I didn't want it to cost more money for him.
To our second date he brought wine with plastic cups to a park, where we had to sit on a bench and drink it ... I hated the idea ...
I'm thinking maybe he is just clueless about how to treat girls and stuff? That's why I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. But there is more though: I don't feel anything when he kisses me. He just shoves his tongue in my mouth ...
His positive traits are: he always texts me and asks me about the stuff I do. He calls me regurlarly ... I don't know if I should go on with this. The thing is I'm also afraid of being alone ... Casual dating is not something for me ... WHat should I do?
P.S I don't want him to pay for everything, I only don't pay the first 2 dates just to see if he is a generous person. If I am convinced that he is, I will pay my share as well. It's not about the money
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what's a night store?
i've drank wine out of plastic cups simply because it's easier that carrying around wine glasses. plus where I'm from it's illegal to drink alcohol in public so plastic cups can appear to be something other than booze... perhaps he's not cheap perhaps he's just smart. Plus maybe he doesn't want to break the bank on the chance that you never want to see him again, especially if he's had a string of bad dates.
the kissing is separate and that just sounds like a guy who isn't a good kisser.
you shouldn't stay or be with someone at all because you are scared to be alone. you should be with someone because you like them and see them as a potential partner.
regarding your 2 date no pay rule. I'd axe that one. I have no problem paying for dates and like to extend the courtesy/generosity...but I also hope that a girl will at least offer to pay rather than some unspoken expectation. I'll politely tell her "no it's on me" but I like to see that she doesn't simply expect things0