I'll try not to ramble!
Met guy online. Articulate guy with good job. He called twice (each were hour long convos). He asked me out for dinner Sat night (I know, Sat nites are serious.) He took cab from his part of town & I drove from mine. Had dinner then he wanted to go somewhere else. (He told me my online photos didn't do me justice and I have beautiful skin. Made references to things about me, remembered stuff, showed genuine interest.)
Went to a bar, still early and quiet and good for talking. Date lasted 4 1/2 hours with constant talking, joking, flirting and touching (both of us). I think he drank too much (2 beers w/dinner and 4 at the bar) because he became more brazen in his flirting (kissing me on the forehead, etc. - still cute though) and he also ramped up usage of sexual words (not related to me but in general). I think he said things that probably shouldn't be discussed on a first date! I could tell he was getting tipsy. I was torn - was it turning me off? I was still attracted but feeling awkward the last 30 min or so but didn't show it. He seemed really into me.
He walked me to my car. He hugged me - engaged in full body hug. Then he said something about definitely having to go out again to which I said, "I hope so!" Then I thought he was coming toward me to hug me again so I turned my head and hugged him. Then, he kissed me on the lips.
I didn't text him afterward to say thanks because I said thanks right after dinner...and hugged him...and agreed that we needed to go out again. I waited for him to call and...one week later, no call. I caved and sent a one-sentence text, referencing something I had a emailed him about when I first contacted him online. A fun, casual "reaching out email". IF he was feeling like he'd gotten drunk and dumb and said things he shouldn't have, I didn't want him to be embarrassed. I mean, I can sympathize with drinking because you're nervous. Why else would someone drink that much on a first date? Anyway, 3 days later and no response to my text.
I only texted because I thought he might have been thinking he drank too much and acted overly-interested and was now wondering what I thought or if I was turned off by him, his serious flirting and drinking.
I haven't done anything since my text 3 days ago and won't do anything else. But I just wanted to know what to make of this? Your input is very much appreciated!
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Never text. It's cold and without emotion, regardless of the words. Call him direct or better yet, visit him either at his workplace or his home. But only if you want this to go further. Most guys are shy and have no idea how to communicate with a woman. Don't expect a man to understand a woman's hints or her "looks". Guys have no idea how to translate a hint to anything meaningful or worse yet get the wrong message. Be direct and clear with him. Tell him what you want. Ask him if he wants to date you then you suggest a time and place. Some guys just need your guidance; men fumble when asking for dates or even making conversation...most guys panic without showing it other than being silent.0