I feel like I am being tested or something? Like this guy I know will ask me out then back out. He'll make plans with me then just back out, and then he'll call or text me like nothing happened, and everythings cool. He always calls me and texts me. I never initiate anything with him. I rejected him a lot in the beginning, and it was only because I didn't know him well enough, well we went out with friends a couple of times and he would say how hot a girl is and such and he has such a bold personality, but yet he never went up to any of these girls he was talking about. He mentions girls to me all the time. But yet when I mention guys he gets all jealous. He questions my where abouts, and what I am doing all the time. He has been telling me he likes this girl, but yet he says to me "Let's do something! Text me later" I text him later and he is out with that girl and some friends, and completely ditches me but then calls me and texts me 2 days later like everythings cool.
I am confused? I don't know why he is doing this? My one friend said he thinks it's a get back game for me rejecting him so much in the beginning, but I don't know. Do you guys play head games like this? Is he playing games? What does this sound like to you and what should I do? Thank you! Best Answer! <3 one love
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Regarding his bold personality, I think it's a matter of how some with the loudest bark have the least amount of bite. He never makes moves because he's either not as interested as he claims, or he's scared. But still he talks a big talk. Just a theory.
About your main question: Some guys do play headgames. Some guys do test girls. Though I wouldn't consider what he's doing to you a test. I think it's more likely a headgame than anything else. Still, I can't say for sure, because I don't really know. It is possible (however improbable) that he is backing out for a good reason. Does he ever tell you why he backs out? Have you ever asked? If he does this again, I would advise asking. If you want to be extra bitchy, just make extra plans, for the time he set up, and inform him that you saw this coming.
Personally, though, I think that at the most you should give him one more chance and tell him that was his last chance. You're not putting up with this anymore, and that you're tired of the games, and even if there are no games, you're just tired of being stood up, and won't have it. Heck you could just skip it and the next time he asks you out, you can flatout refuse, and list the above as your reason why. But yeah, seriously, I personally think you should give him shit for this. What he's doing just isn't cool.
Best of luck.
(PS - I wouldn't advise putting a sideways heart in your messages. Things like that can actually disrupt the code on this site, and erase entire messages, such as questions, answers and comments. Fortunately, it looks like you lucked out this time. But just a tip.)3
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