I've liked this girl for a while , had some success in terms of getting to know her and hanging out as friends at some bars during the summer . but can't seem to get her to be my girlfriend , she doesn't seem to want to take thins further and I don't know what to do about this , I really like her and have strong feelings for her . I can't seem to really move on and date other people as I seem stuck on her and there may be no way to get girl I like to date me
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I've been there before. Before I ever dated my first girlfriend, I was in love with one girl for about five years. She was my best friend (she still is one of my best, but my ex is my number one now.). I thought she had feelings for me at first, but it became slightly more clear as time went on--still, that didn't diminish my feelings for her.
My advice to you, and the reason I told that story, is that you make it explicitly clear how you feel. Don't hint or suggest. Outright ask her if she's interested in you and would want to be anything more than just friends. It will let her know exactly how you feel and you'll finally have the answer you might need to move past her or, if things go as you would prefer, it might lead to an actual romantic relationship.
If you truly care for her though, the answer should make little difference in the long run. The way I've always figured it, it's better to have someone you care about in your life at least as a friend if nothing more, and that's unlikely to change if you just open up to her. Nothing to lose by asking one small question. :)0