let's say I invite a girl to prom. so she's my date but most of the time she's hanging around with her friends. so I told her I was leaving and told her to have fun. would the girl be upset with me and blame me? ever since she hasn't responded to my texts. I thought she was kinda avoiding me and would prob have more fun if I wasn't there so I left. also before this we went to dinner and I guess she got the vibe that I wasn't interested in her (at prom her friend came to us and was repeating to me how pretty my date is and how lucky I am and stuff)
so whose fault is it (we don't know each other well)
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I had a girl I dated who would ignore me if she wasn't happy. Her mantra was that the silent treatment was a proper threat. For me, it was the only time I could get a word in edgewise. NOT a punishment. I just don't like those games, but I don't let it anger me. BUT - There were only a few times I left. She had her own ride every time, and I had an important meeting or somewhere I had to be and I'd give her plenty of notice about when I had to leave. At wedding and formal evens, though, that bit has to change, even if she drove you nuts.
I've had "pals" leave me behind at strange people's houses, without any concern for if I had a ride. No warning, just sudden attitude problem and they're gone. And it ticks me off. I would assume it would annoy you if she had driven you there, and she left without making sure you had a safe ride back.
Her fault for "ignoring you" but, maybe she's just clueless like that. Your fault for not mentioning it. You DID tell her you were leaving... however it's your duty, say, at Prom (and more formal events) that you at LEAST make sure she can get home safely if she wants to stay so badly and WILL NOT leave. However, you could have hung out even if she was ignoring you.