I'm a junior and he's a senior in high school. We've been dating for about 5 weeks now. He's sweet and a gentleman. I'm his first girlfriend and worried he is just using me. He's the one who asked me out but I just over think...a lot. It's because I'm insecure and have a hard time believing someone actually LIKES me. I've dated people before but...they all just wanted a girlfriend, hated being alone. He usually always texts me first and I never do because I feel I will be annoying or clingy, that's just what I think. He's geeky and a gamer so sometimes when I ask him what he is doing, he says playing video games.
But usually he texts me while he plays his video games or before or after. I know he has a life too but I just over think that he either got bored of me, likes someone else, using me, feels sorry for me, mad at me, etc. We got new groups in class and I feel like he is going to stop liking me and start liking this girl in his group. I feel like he will get bored of me or Is just dating me because he is bored. I know I'm over thinking this WAY too much but I can't help it. I just want to calm down. I really like him and don't want to lose him. Help? Thanks
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Slow down a bit. Overthinking is the easiest way to bring a relationship to an end.
He's a guy, he needs his space. With unlimited texting being the number one way of communication right now, you two get to talk to each other 24/7, something he never had to deal with before you. Trust me, you don't want to be a burden, but if you get upset whenever he doesn't text back, it's being a burden, and is a quick way for him to start to lose interest. If you give him his space, you two will have more things to talk about when you do talk.
And girls always say a guy should always text them first, but sometimes the guy wants to be texted first so WE know that YOU care. You should go ahead and text him first sometimes, and if he doesn't respond, let him have his time. Now, if he goes a whole day without texting you, he's probably high with friends or just really busy. Doesn't always mean he's cheating. (not saying he does drugs, but this is something I did one time, and it didn't end out too well for me, my now ex was pissed).
Just give him his space, text him first, and don't over think.0