Met this girl in school and been flirting with her for the past two weeks. Finally got her number and I texted her some of those "How was your day?" "What you up to?" "You looked good in tennis today :)" and I get responses between one to 4 hours later. It's kinda frustrating understanding what she thinks of me or why she takes forever to respond. Guys or girls, I would love feedback why this girl who's somewhat interested in me won't reply. Also, maybe some advice on how to get her to text me first or even minutes later! lol Thanks!
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Brevity in texting is like brevity in talk. Women like men who hold back, it makes them seem different, mysterious and therefore appealing. I am not saying go all-out "silent treatment," but don't engage in every impulse to text. Studies have shown over and over again that people get addicted to the pleasure-inducing response of the vibration or ding of the cell phone or constant updating on Facebook simply because it is rewarding to know that you are getting feedback. That is technology talking, not women. You are dealing with a woman, not with your phone. Say what you need and let her decide if it is important. If it isn't, more talking is not going to get you into her good graces. At best, you might get friend-zoned because you always want to talk. Be cool, wait your turn. If she isn't down with responding then stop texting and pursue other women. Nothing gets women going like competition. If she does start responding after a period of silence, then play the same game. It's easy, just flip it on them and they respond the same way: "Doesn't he like me? Aren't I sexy enough? Why doesn't he respond to my every beck and call?" It's a game, buddy. Learn to play and you will be a Jedi in no time.1