My friend was dumped two weeks ago and since then she's done nothing but complain about it. And I get it, they dated for nearly two years.
But all she did while they dated was complain about him and how he was an awful boyfriend and how she could do so much better.
Anyway, now that he dumped her all she's done is complain about how he won't talk to her. It's literally been nonstop about it. Yet she claims she's handling it fine.
And today I snapped. I can only handle listening to her moan for so long.
Today when she complained that he hadn't talked to her I said, "That's 'cause he's not going to. You probably will never hear from him again. That's how breakups work. They breakup and say they'll still be friends, make some small talk over the next few days and then stop talking. That's how it works and it sucks but that's how it is."
And she looked like she was going to cry. Which I don't understand because she complained about him all the time and she's started talking to new guys already. Plus what I said is the truth so...
My boyfriend said it was too harsh so what do you think?
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i recently broke up about a month ago from a 2 year relationship. and I really have only been able to talk about him to absolutely everybody so I think it is kind of normal. also I think its the fact that she feels like it is all unfair she is left with these horrible feelings to deal with, and its frustrated he isn't contacting her and he was just such an a**hole. she is just in an emotionally weird place. I think considering its only been 2 weeks that's fine, but she really needs to stop moping about this guy now. 2 weeks is enough time to mourn and be depressed. she now needs to get on with it. doesn't mean she can't be sad etc but I don't think you would be harsh in saying that to her now. its not so much that she needs to get over him that she is having trouble with but maybe just the whole situation in general, the injust in it all, maybe she was dumped, cheated on, put through crap and feels its unfair. often people can't let go of those things rather than the person. maybe you need to help her see that complaining isn't going to solve her problems now but rather she needs to do what it takes to be able to move on. tell her to read google articles about moving foward and acceptance and letting go.0