He said this last night on the phone in response to me saying that I used to be a size 00. I'm extremely hurt by it, because he always told me that he was dating me because of my personality (and not because of my body). I also used to have an eating disorder, and he knows this, so my former low weight is an EXTREMELY touchy subject. I'm just so hurt by his comment & I don't know what to do :(.
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You need to talk to him. Does he know about your difficult past with eating disorders? Saying something like that over the phone is really insensitive especially if they knew about your eating disorder. I hope that you have overcome that eating disorder
Truthfully though looks do matter in attraction and from your boyfriends side he may find your physical form unattractive, but I also think that he may find the reason you would be too skinny unappealing. He may be giving you his boundaries/deal breakers if you were to go down that road again. He my feel that he is giving you motivation as to what you would lose if you lost too much weight. You can't believe that your personality is the only thing keeping him around. Would you stay with him if he decided to have a sex change. Probably not because you wouldn't find the change attractive at ll despite his wonderful personality
Bottom line is that you need to talk to him. He is your partner and should understand you. You need to work together to make sure that you don't head down that road again.In relationships people compromise all the time and lean on each other all the time. I think thathe just cares, but wasn't to sensitive about it0