Let's say the person is overall attractive, inside and out, to you. But they dropped out of college.
They are very intelligent and can have intellectually as well as emotionally deep conversations; but they just suck at conventional academic standards. They work (they're not a bum) and have ambitions for the future.
Would this be a deal breaker?
Yes. They have no actual drive. What's the point in working if you're not doing anything meaningful for society? Sure they may have a quick factory job, or something, but they definitely aren't working away from the inflation line as things are going. To make matters worse why didn't they finish? Intelligence means nothing without application so the fact that they know a few big words doesn't impress me. I know a few big words myself but that wouldn't change the reality of the fact that I am on ( essentially ) a children-in-adult-skins website!
If they were so worthy of dropping out and pressing on they best not be asking on a website like this and best be havin' something more serious than blind ambition to back themselves up. The whole "I have dreams" bit makes no sense; they enrolled AND quit of their own volition so that they could work some lame and probably menial job either for a friend doing something everyone else can do or for a well-known but completely overlookable establishment like a department store.
Need. More. At. Table.
Intelligent?
Check
Work?
Check
Ambitions for the future?
Check.
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I honestly wouldn't have any problems dating someone like this. College isn't for everyone, and it's not something that I put on a pedestal like so many others. As long as they've got a head on their shoulders, have goals for their lives, and are actively working towards reaching those goals, I don't see it as a big deal at all.
It would be a deal breaker for me. I'm currently at the university, and while I enjoy talking to anyone who can have a deep, intelligent conversation, it's just not the same if they don't have the knowledge about the same stuff you do. I quite enjoy talking to my crush, because we can discuss anything from chemistry and parasites to politics and cooking. There's something about our conversations that comes from years of higher education. And while I still love my uneducated but intelligent friends just as much, I don't think I could ever date someone who dropped out of college. Also, I think that sticking to college even when you "suck at conventional academic standards" shows that you're determined and you're a person that sticks to your decisions (going to college) and you're willing to fight to reach your goals. And I really want to date someone who is both intelligent and determined to reach his goals. But I'm sure that there's plenty of girls who would date you, so good luck! x
No, as long as his reason makes sense like he wants to try other options or something. I know a few who are great people - smart, caring, fun to be around - just didn't like all the structure of college. I've thought about leaving for the same reason! But I think the great thing about the present is that a woman has (almost) as much opportunity as a man to be successful and therefore doesn't have to dismiss a guy just because he dropped out of school and may make less money. Now we can get together for love. Aww, mushy haha.
I voted B even though I don't think it's a "big turnoff", I just think it's a shame for an intelligent person to give up on education that would fit their intelligence much better than a high school degree... But I would date them if they fit the description above. In fact, my boyfriend is a college dropout, he is hard working and has ambitious plans for his future, so I don't mind it at all. I respect such men more than lazy unambitious guys with a masters degree who leech of their parents' money.
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Depends.
College isn't for everyone, however, to get somewhere in life nowadays it's generally required. Even labour jobs like electrician, plumber, etc require some degree of college.
Having ambitions are good however one benefit of college many don't understand is it teaches you focus, discipline, etc. You have to to meet grades, exams, assignments, etc. If a person doesn't have strong focus, etc they typically don't do good at school.
So by not going to college a person is potentially lacking in focus, discipline, etc. to actually reach their ambitions.
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As for intelligence & ability to hold deep conversations that's perspective.
LoonyLuna said it well certain subjects you can only discuss in depth with higher education. You are not taught more than the basics of such in high school.
Reading news which is typically biased one way or another or the typical googled websites on subjects, which is usually just slapped together information with few to no legitimate references, isn't often educational as more it's muddled detrimental rubbish.
It would depend on why they dropped out of college and if they have other skills and earning potential that don't depend on a degree.
A college degree doesn't necessarily mean that a person is smart. I know some really stupid people who have Masters and even PhD degrees.
College just trains you in one discipline. But a smart person can just as easily learn as much or more by studying on their own without the structured college format. And, in some respects, college can be a form of indoctrination.
College can also leave a person with massive debt.
And technical schools can teach high paying skills and more secure careers than some college degrees.
A college education is not as important as the naive snobs on here think.
My dad had to drop out of school in the 3rd grade. Yet he was one of the most intelligent people you'll ever meet.
Thomas Edison had very little formal education as a child, he attended school for only a few months. He was taught reading, writing, and arithmetic by his mother.
Like my dad, Edison's belief in self-improvement remained throughout his life. Higher education is just one way to learn about the world.
Hi!
I am currently having problems related to this topic.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is 21 and I am 17. When we started dating he entered med school and was doing ok. Then he quitted and entered engineer school (where he is rn) and plans to dropout again.
I don't know what to do anymore, I don´t want to be with someone that doesn´t have ambitions. Besides, his family is not economically satble (mine is), so my parents will dissaprove if they find out that he plans to dropout again.
I don´t even know how to tell my friends.
I am so dissapointed in him
I have even been doing his homework, so he feels college is eassier.
Sorry for my English, it is my second language.
No
It would simply mean we prioritize differently and have different life goals.
Bill Gates and Steve Jobs are one in a million.
Sure, why not?
I'm in college, and it wouldn't bother me, as long as the guy wasn't moping around, doing nothing.
Hey, Steve Jobs was a dropout. I wouldn't hold this against them even for a second.
These days, the job market is so chaotic, with rapid technological change, that college isn't the best option, especially if you're a techie.
This is a part of the "dating apocalypse". Women who went to college and spent too much on a worthless degrees think they are above men who never went to college or didn't finish. Women are increasingly limiting themselves to a smaller and smaller percentage of men. This is why the top 4% of men are balls deep in hundreds of women.
A guy with a college education is attractive, but not completely necessary. As long as he's being productive and moving forward in some way, rather than backward, it's usually not that alarming.
It doesn't matter to me... I don't even wanna go to collage
But, I could see why some people wouldn't. If it becomes serious you always want to be financially stable.
Fine by me. Getting rich isn't about the academics. It's about working 2 jobs or being a freelancer or self-employed. There is no employment contract, that is able to offer the type of wealth to be able to drive Ferraris.
Yes why not Respect and Accept there decisions and background and it's not a big deal I mean have the billionaires around the world will dropouts
I dropped out after my freshman year because I was already making more in my business than I would top out at with my degree. If she rejects me because I was wise enough to make the proper decision, then I don't want her anyway.
I’m too Giga Chad to date but yeah, it’s understandable. In the most recent version of my eyes, college is trying to walk with your hands instead of your feet.
alot of successful entrepreneurs or people in life are drop outs of high school, colleges and universities.
yes
I voted D. It might sound silly, but student loan debt can be huge, so if my bf were smart enough to avoid it, that would be really attractive to me.
Most women want a good looking guy. As they get older, women value money and intelligence more.
entirely depends on what they're doing with their life.
Yes, i dropped out college too so can't judge anyone else.
It wouldn’t matter to me either way. To me it’s more about personality and compatibility.
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