So, twice now this guy has done this. We'll make plans, and he'll be so enthusiastic about them. I'll always ask if he's busy that day or anything, and he'll say no, and we'll decide to hang out.
Then, the day before he'll disappear completely. And I won't hear from him for about two weeks, then he'll text me like "Hey!" as if nothing happened! The last time he did this on my birthday and I was really mad so I sent him a text going off about it, thinking he would never want to talk to me again. And he texts me a few weeks later like "Hey!"
Why does he do this? Should I bring that up to him when I break off communication, or just never talk to him again?
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It seems like he doesn't really care how you feel when he acts like this, or he doesn't like confrontation and hopes that you'll have forgiven him by the time he says "hey" again.
I suggest you confront him with his behavior . Like if you make plans, I would text him the day we met up something like "see you tonight!" and if he doesn't answer and doesn't show up, call him the day itself. Ask him why he's not there, and why he didn't bother to let you know he wouldn't make it. He needs to know this behavior isn't okay. Or when he pulls his disappearing trick again, text him and ask him why he's hiding and not explaining why he disappears. Let him know that this needs to change because you're not taking it anymore.1
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