So basically like 4 months ago I broke up with my ex even tho I didn't want too but I had to out of self respect. I felt he wasn't treating me the way I deserved to be treated and he at this point was not making the time to be with me and I'm a true believer in that you make time for the things you enjoy and find important.
When I broke up with him his reaction was like lets go on a break instead and I said no to that then he told me if I do this that he would never take me back. After that I went to go give back his things and he said we need to talk and try to work things out after that he said that since its summer time he wants to have his summer fun (which I think he was implying having fun with other girls) in response to that I just turned my back and walked away.
The last time I spoke to him was like 3 months ago when he called me cause he found out that his best friends and other friends hung out with me sometime during the summer. In this phone call he basically told me to get a life and that I was ruining his summer. I apologized to him through text even saying that I want things to be OK with us and I don't want him to be upset that I was hung with his friends and I don't want him to hate me and to which he replied "Don't worry I don't hate you to be honest I wasn't feeling you for a long time sweetie." and some other mean things and I don't know if he said that because he was mad.
This whole time I missed him and keep thinking about him and I feel a void in my heart. I've been contemplating messaging him. I thought by now I would get over the whole situation but I'm not. I have this feeling that I'm going to bump into him or something. I don't know if he's moved on or what. I just miss him so much
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You are basically me right now. I too broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago for exactly the same reasons as you but I loved him to bits. It then went to summer and I went no contact. He said he was devastated, tried to contact me a couple of times and tell me how much he loved me, but I just could not ignore all the red flags.He begged me to stay friends because we were so close. 4 weeks later I see pictures of him and a new girl on Facebook. We still text a couple of times and then there was no contact.
I text my ex boyfriend 3 months later just to be friendly and see how he was getting on with his new job and guess what no reply, even though he begged me to be friends.
Now to your guy, he sounds a little mean and if you broke up with him (I know as someone who has done the same) that it is really hard and that we still love them and miss the closeness, but you have to accept it is over. Go through in your mind all the times you felt unhappy in the relationship and all the times you felt like breaking up with him. He does sound a little mean and to say he wants to fool around with other girls is disgusting. You broke up with him for perfectly legit reasons, if you'd stayed your friends and family would only say to you, 'why did you stay with him?'
You could text him because it may give you a bit of closure, BUT word of caution, be prepared for no reply. If he doesn't reply you will know he has moved on, and you will have to do the same.
I know it is hard, but we must be strong and move on. You will find someone that treats you like a princess one day, staying and taking that kind of crap would have been the biggest mistake.