I just recently met and started talking to a younger lady that is a single mom. She's 31 and lives with her parents with her little boy. We've gone out a several times and seem to hit it off. We've kissed and done a lot of holding and tons of talking. My issue is that she says that she has to sneak to even go out with me when we do see each other, because her parents wouldn't understand her leaving her son to date. She hasn't dated in almost three years and she and I both aren't dating anyone else. My confusion more is that she's hot and cold. Like someday she's all about sending hearts, dirty talk, and others she's just like talking to a "friend". Am I wasting my time here hoping that more will happen? Mom's what's your take? She doesn't get to go out much at all which means we get very little actual time together.
She was taking her little boy trick or treating this evening and I see pics on Facebook of her, her son, and her parents with an "ex" boyfriend...guess I get the hot and cold now :-(
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I honestly feel that she's bad news. I've tried dating single moms and very few have their sh*t together. The fact that she lives at home also shows you that she isn't financially independent. Most of this is probably due to having to watch her kid preventing her from working more flexibly(only guessing here). I've met some single moms who successfully live on their own but the ones at home with their parents I feel have a higher chance of being bad news.
At home or not though, there is a risk of ex-boyfriend drama. This can have something to do with the hot and cold. But it's only a guess. I honestly feel that most single moms try to keep their issues away from potential dates at least for a little while. My other concern is the whole "sneaking out? thing. I'm assuming she's telling her parents one thing, then seeing you when you say this. Honestly, this can potentially make you feel like you're dating a 17 year old who has a curfew. I doubt you'd want that.