Do you think the reason why more black men are dating white women because they think black women are bossy?

[VeohTV]

Some guys may say if you marry a black woman, she would want to be known as the head of the household, meaning what she says goes and her husband has to agree with her all the time.

Of course this what those guys are saying, not me.

[Anonymous]

All women can be bossy

Did the phrases

"Happy wife, happy life"

"If mama ain't happy, nobody's happy"

originate with black women?

Did black women start the feminist bra burning I hate men movement?

We aren't any more bossy than any other race. Of course I have an opinion and speak my mind, but who doesn't? Do I want to be the head of the household? No, because I want my man to. I can't stand a weak ass man, I prefer men who are strong and masculine.

If anything most black women want a man who is a BOSS. We don't want some henpecked punk that we can tell what to do. So the black men who are dating white girls need to find another excuse.

[VeohTV]

If the man is the head of the house hold, then shouldn't it be, "happy husband=happy life?"

[Anonymous]

Yeah some are but not all of us, I am by no means a bossy person at all. And honestly I'm so tired of people assuming all black women are the same. So you're telling me that people automatically assume I'm bossy (among other things) just for the simple fact that I'm black? Something that I have no control over? I'm sorry but that seems a little unfair to me.

And people wonder why so many black women are so bitter. Its because we're constantly being sh*t upon by everyone & being told we're not good enough. I mean seriously, just look at the answers here. I'm not trying to complain but it hurts when people say things like that about you.

[SunshineLelek]

Sweetie, you don't have to explain yourself to him. It's not like he nor anyone else on GAG has a heaven or hell to send you to. Who cares what people think? If you know what you are and what you aren't, then that's all that matters. People can try to sh*t on you all day, but the best revenge is success. So they can stereotype you and put these nasty misplaced judgements on you, but if you're proving them wrong, it couldn't mean less. : ) All they are doing is downgrading their own mind and

[SunshineLelek]

playing a self-sabotaging part in the karmic circle so don't even sweat it!

[VeohTV]

What you said is wonderful, I want to ask you this. If you was married & you and your husband was looking for a new house to live in, but it was just a minor disagreement on which house to choose cause he likes one house while you like another, would you expect him to let you choose the house you like?

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly I don't know. I grew up an only child so I'm used to getting my way but compromise is a part of marriage so I'm not sure. But I'm only in high school I don't know a lot about buying houses.

[SunshineLelek]

Nah, I think it's because deep down, most black men have self hating mentaities and it makes them feel better to date and breed out with women who's features are nothing like their's.

It's not logical to blame thousands of black women whom these black men have never even experienced on a romantic, spiritual, and mental level on black men dating non-black women. That's not even close to a rational explanation. Black men who try to blame black women for them dating non-black women are foolish idiots for acting like someone the black women from their past are miraculously official reps for black women all over America.

[SunshineLelek]

@AndyWes, who cowardly blocked me to get the last word: They are not "two huge paragraphs". I wrote one comment, then thought of something else to add. Doesn't mean your entire five minutes on the timeline of my life is oh so important lol don't flatter yourself for no reason

[VeohTV]

I just want to know your opinion, do you think men should always follow that "happy wife=happy life", phrase? Meaning if you was married and you and your husband was looking for a new house to live in, so out of the three options, he likes one house while you like another, should he be afraid of you by agreeing to live in the house you like the most? Please don't be mad at me, I'm just trying to understand you more.

[SunshineLelek]

Hmmm well, I think men should follow the "happy wife=happy life" idea if they have a good wife who fulfills the true purpose of a woman; if and ONLY IF she's loving, loyal, nurturing, supportive, and an outstanding future mother, and would make compromises and sacrafices of her own to see her husband happy. No, I do not believe a man should go out of his way to make a woman happy if she doesn't deserve it and is not willing to reciprocate. Lol @ your example. Any female, black or not, who aims

[SunshineLelek]

to make her husband "afraid" as ypou say, of disagreeing with her has some serious effing issues. She needs to get her sh*t together before trying to tackle the role of a wife. In that situation, we would have to come to a compromise. It's not just about the physical house, but the area including the neighborhood, the amount of registered sex offenders in the county, the educational system's rating, the convienence of the location *how far is it from the mall, shopping plazas, our doctor's

[SunshineLelek]

office?* We would debate about the home's surroundings and which ever home has the most benefits is the one we would choose. If the homes are in the same neighborhood, it would come down to if the house needs work done or if there are features of the home that require extensive financial attention. Hell, I'd even go to the public library and see if there were any murders in that house to argue my point lol! but I would not try to intimidate my man into agreeing with me lmao because

[SunshineLelek]

1.) that's absolutely ridiculous & demeaning to him as a MAN 2.) I was raised better 3.) you catch more bees with honey than vinegar ; ) hehe

[VeohTV]

But still in the long run, if he decided to pick a house he like more but you liked another house more, how would you react?

In marriage, men have to make their wives happy first, before the wife makes him happy?

[SunshineLelek]

why is it that you assume I would react negatively without even knowing me? or at least that's how it seems.

I'd be annoyed like any other female who has her eyes set on a certain house, but that doesn't mean I'd become bossy. I never said men have to make their wives happy first.

[VeohTV]

Yeah it's natural to be annoyed, just like guys would be annoyed if she picked a house that she like more.

[SunshineLelek]

why are you so obsessed with that example?

[VeohTV]

What this video on YouTube, that's the reason why. link

[SunshineLelek]

I don't have time to watch it. Summarize it?

[VeohTV]

It's not a long video, just 20 something minutes.

[SunshineLelek]

I don't have the time or desire.

[SunshineLelek]

That's asking for bit much.

[VeohTV]

Can I ask why your not interested in looking at the link?

I'll describe some of it, this video is an episode of House Hunters International, where a married couple is out looking for a new house, they have three houses to choose from. Guess what, this couple is interracial. A black woman who married a white man. She's from Jamacia.

[SunshineLelek]

I'm sincerely not interested in watching a 20 minute video on Youtube. It's nothing personal lol I'm just lazy and I don't feel like watching that 20 min video so I can come back here and you can possibly argue with me non-stop about the video next.

...okay? So your point is...? That one black woman from Jamaica is the official representation for all black women around the world? Lol, get real if that's what you think. Stop trying to reconfirm stereotypes.

[VeohTV]

You're not too lazy to be on GAG, so I would think a 20 minute video wouldn't be no problem. I want to say this, if the wife is loving, supportive, to the point of making compromises for her husband, then it shouldn't seem like the husband should always follow that happy wife=happy life, knowing she can compromises of him liking a house that more convinent to him like if it's closer to his work or if he like's basements and she doesn't, or if he likes hardwood floors and she likes carpets.

[SunshineLelek]

There's a difference between being on GAG and answering questions AS I CHOOSE, questions that I apparently have an interest in and a desire to participate in vs going to Youtube and watching a 20 min video that I have no desire at all to see just because a QA MAY POSSIBLY want to further argue with me about how all black women are bossy.

[SunshineLelek]

I don't know why you keep going on and on about that same example to me as if I'm the one who created the 'happy wife/happy life' phrase?

[VeohTV]

I want to get a woman's opinions on the happy wife, happy life, thing. You didn't create it but you seem to feel flatter by it, knowing if it was the other way around, then you'd get a little offend. You seem like a strong woman, so I would assume watching a video is a walk like a simple walk in the park. I only wanted you to watch the video so you can tell me if you agree with how she did most of the talking and her husband mostly went along with what she said. I like knowing people's reaction

[SunshineLelek]

My comments have shown the exact opposite of a female who would get offended if it was the other way around. If you are determined to label and judge black women, then I'm not interested in speaking with you.

[VeohTV]

Okay I'm down with this black woman topic I'm just talking about women in general. Would women get offend if he had more of what he wanted in the house compared to what she wanted cause women want things to be all about them? If it was the oither way around, people would think he's a jerk... I hate how the way society portray men in that way, like his opinion doesn't matter.

[SunshineLelek]

Depends on the women.

You can't ask a question like that assuming that somehow, every woman on this planet miraculously would have the same reaction. It depends on her personality and the dynamic of the relationship. If the man allows his partner to disrespect him, be inconsiderate towards his feelings, and walk all over him, then really he only has himself to blame. It's simple: Don't teach your partner that they can treat you however, boss you around, and get their way every time because

[VeohTV]

I didn't say every woman, but it's most women. Yeah he's at fault.

[SunshineLelek]

Well you haven't experienced most women on this planet for that to be factual comment.

[VeohTV]

You're right I haven't, that's why I choose to be single.

[futureSURGEON]

i choose not to date most black women because they aren't attractive to me. ever since I was little, around the age of 2 or 3 my "girlfriend" was Hispanic.

i do understand what you're saying. from my limited experience black women do tend to be more bossy. that is a generality though, not all of them are like this, of course.

[ChristopherLosRivera]

And "black" is a generality. Obviously, people fall under many different shades of skin tone but we generalize for the sake of communication.

[futureSURGEON]

i see exactly what you're getting at.

[pickledxtofu]

I think it's odd when black guys criticize black women, cause black men are the last ones to talk poorly of any other group...

[Anonymous]

I don't know. Maybe its because black people are the worlds favorite race to generalize and scapegoat by other races including some black people.

[SunshineLelek]

+1

because somehow, despite all of the situtions that can and will make ANY FEMALE bossy black women are the ONLY women on the planet who could potentially be bossy. Makes so much sense.

[cheesesteak7]

it does seem true lol. So many people - like the cowardly and ignorant AndyWes - point out as many anti-black stats as they can, simply ignoring any similar stats that apply to whites, browns, asians, middle easterners, etc.

Sad, really. Black people have really been spat on since recorded history, really...

[pickledxtofu]

Yes.

Black women are aggressive and not feminine enough. Not to mention, white/Latin/Asian girls are more attractive and feminine in their behaviors, mannerisms and attitudes.

There's a reason 70% of black women are single and why black men are more likely to date/marry interracially while black women are the least likely to marry or date PERIOD.

*Waits for the antiracists who will go on to showcase their love for black women*

[Anonymous]

Oh wow, yet another bash black women circle jerk. It never gets old for you people huh?

[SunshineLelek]

Ya know what's funny? The things people try to use to stereotype black women are traits that MANY women in this day and age have. Angry, bitter women exist from all walks of life and all races. My mind trails off in a million different directions as I process the framework for a woman's life that can rightfully so make her angry and bitter. My half white/half Japanese friend who fell in love with a guy, got pregnant, and he told her to get an abortion or he would leave her. So she got one and he

[SunshineLelek]

left her anyway...the day before Valentine's Day. A former Mexican friend of mine who is bossy because she's the oldest of four and her mother was always a drunken mess so from the time she was a little girl, she HAD to be bossy to maintain order. My pasty ass white friend who got herpes because she slept around with guys from work; promiscuity makes her feel powerful because her grandfather molested her and may have raped her *the memory is scattered* as young as age 2. These "negative traits"

[SunshineLelek]

that people (esepecially people on GAG) keep trying to BRAND black women for are things that so many different types of women have. It makes absolutely no sense and I can't belive how small minded and irrational some of these people are! It's like they haven't actually OBSERVED the world and it's effects, just read about it online. Lol?

[VeohTV]

WOW SunshineLelek, those stories are deep.

[SunshineLelek]

Girl, I have stories for days! lol True stories. I've had a, sometimes overwhelming amount, of women open up to me about their minds. The negative traits people try to brand black women with are traits that any woman with a rocky past may cultivate.

[Foodmakesmehappy]

ahahahh you go girl

[Tarvold]

If this was true, then nobody would be dating Asian girls.

[pickledxtofu]

Asian girls are known to be submissive and subservient. They're not known to be demanding, which is why they often appeal to non Asian men who lack social skills and an assertive attitude

[Tarvold]

Yeah... That's about as true as the Asian men's stereotype.

[pickledxtofu]

Idk what the stereotype for Asian men is. I always assumed Asian men were dominant since they're usually head of the households...

And if we're talking Indian or middle eastern that's a different story

[Anonymous]

No it's because all dark skinned men pretty much prefer light skinned women so they can have non-dark kids

skin darkness will weed itself out over time I think

[Anonymous]

Definitely not based off of what I've seen. What statistics are you reading? This whole black man vs black woman is highly blown out of proportion.

[Anonymous]

The masculine attracts the feminine.