He asked me to leave him alone but keeps texting me

[Anonymous]

Here's the story he demanded me to come to Atlanta and wanted me to fly out that same day I looked for flights and they were to expensive. He gets mad and tells me to leave him alone. So I decided to text him about how that made me feel followed by telling him bye and to take care and I will not contact him anymore. He texts me back telling me to lose his number, so I replied by telling him that I already deleted it and to be safe and take care. Thinking that would be the last that I here from him, he texts me back again telling me to leave him alone. My question is if he doesn't want any contact with him why does he keep texting me? he told me to lose his number how can I if he keeps texting me back? I thought by telling him I deleted it he wouldn't reply he would just move on.

[nicolecat]

First of all, he sounds quite immature of the flights thing.. it's good that you tried to stop contact him..

it doesn't make any sense from what he is doing but I guess that's how he is ?! He is probably still trying to play cool and pull off by asking you to leave him alone, but at the same time, he want you back, maybe he think he is playing a good game lol

anyway, I hope you can sort this out soon!

[Anonymous]

Yall both are retarted lol.Love can do that to you:)

[Asker]

Yea maybe but when someone tells you to leave them alone then I say OK, why text me back again. I don't have time for games so I did as he asked so why respond. If it was me I would just tell myself OK he got the hint not text back so my number is on his phone again you know what I mean? if that made any sense

[PHILR]

GO completely no contact ...if he contacts you 1st he may still have feelings for you but not hiding it well by trying to act he doesn't care... if he does care still (even though saying don't contact him) is a sign he is missing you and his txting is a way of still keeping in contact...

[Asker]

That makes since, I guess the hard thing for me is he told me to leave him alone I responded by telling him how I felt and I deleted his number. If he told me that I would have just took what he said and moved on thinking good he got the hint, instead he texts me again. That's what I don't understand.

[PHILR]

LOL... he may be thinking he may have made a big mistake... not sure what you put in the text message about how you felt but I must he shook him up some for him to repeat his message ...this how I see it..i coud be wrong but woud need more info to determine trhat such as what the basic idea of you text message was on your feelings...

[Asker]

Me: This is what I told him, you wanted a woman by your side, who supported you and your dreams, who would put you take time off to ride with you on your truck (he's a truck driver) and would put your needs first. I was that woman I never cheated on you (his ex cheated on him) because all I wanted was you. Just wanted you to know, I'm leaving you alone now. Be safe.

Him: lose this number, Hello

Me: I've already deleted it

HIm: leave me alone

[PHILR]

OMG were is a woman like you for me lol... you'd be a heaven send if someone my age or their abouts was to say that to me... give him up to 90 days (of no contact at all unless he contacts you 1st) if longer than 90 days he for some reasons of his own isn't interested .. but my opnion is this he'll probably wind up with another woman who will cheat on him and break his heart again..

just saying...

[Asker]

lol that's exactly what I was going to do. He's done this before and I cut off all contact with him then he called non-stop until I answered. I think I'm done, I just wanted to know why he does this. Wanted a mans opinion.

Thank you

There are still a few women like me out there :)

[PHILR]

LOL... I just hope one finds me soon ... I've been alone now for 2 years since my wifes death.

also why didn't he understand about the cost and the sudden leaving to be with him this doesn't make sense either...

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear about your wife. Well good things come to those who wait, at least that's what I was told lol.

I really don't know why either, I told him it was expensive and I can come with him after my dental appointment in 2 days. He's the type that wants what he wants NOW like a little 2 year old. He did this all through text too. I just wanted to know why and you've help me understand. Oh well time to move on.

[PHILR]

unfortunately there are people (men and women a like) that act in a childish was ad never seem to grow out of it. as much as I hate to agree with you but its probably best if you do ... looking down the line of the future with him it would only be more of the same antics and wind up in more drama and heart ache

[Asker]

So true, thank you for your insight. Have a nice rest of you evening. I'll check in from time to time to see if you found that one that will be by your side.

Have a goodnight

[Alleykat5294]

How do you call him out on doing that. Urggg. I've tried no contact cause he said leave him alone yet he still somehow finds a way. It breaks my heart all over again. He's usually not very nice. Blaming me everything. But I'm stuck. I did leave at least so I'm not under his thumb while he's telling me to leave.

[bettsyboy]

He's torn.

He wants you out of his life, but at the same time he can't let you go, which means he has some deep unresolved issues with you which he knows can only be resolved by having some kind of contact with you.

[Asker]

Thank you, I really needed another mans perspective.

[Anonymous]

ummh I would never talk to that guy again.