My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I recently found some fb messages between him and a girl that he previously hooked up with that were sexual in nature. I confronted him and he was ashamed and begged me not to leave him because he is a better person and wants to show me that he is. He claims he has never met up with her and that he will work on rebuilding the trust. Before this incident, I had no reason not to trust him. Not sure if I should give him half à chance or just walk. Ever experienced this and if so, what was the outcome?
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Actually the truth is, Many girls somehow believe that if they put up with a guy's bad behavior long enough, that he will eventually see how much she loves him, and will love and respect her equally in return. Unfortunately, this is a totally misguided notion.
Most guys want a fun, self-confident girl, who respects herself, and who doesn't need him to have a good time. Once a guy knows you can't live without him, and will put up with any selfish or bad behavior he dishes out, your chances of keeping him challenged and interested in you goes right out the window.
Not only should you respect other people, but you should demand the same degree of respect for yourself. You should never put up with any kind disrespect from anyone, especially a person you are in a relationship with. You will have a much better chance of keeping a guy interested in you if you stand up yourself, than if you allow him to walk all over you.
Just remember that there are 4 billion guys on the planet. If the guy you are with starts displaying negative, or disrespective behavior towards you, be willing to walk away. If you do, it's very possible he will chase after you with new found respect. A respect he will never have for you if you can't respect yourself enough to leave.
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