I'm going out with this guy on the weekend, and when I asked him where we were going he said something along the lines of we'll decide later/depending on what we feel like getting.
I'm not really looking forward to it, firstly because I'm not too sure I like him at all, I'm giving him another chance (this is the second date, the first date didn't excite me). So I was hoping he would be more romantic and plan to bring me to a nice place for dinner, which would make me look forwards to the date more.
Am I wanting too much to expect him to plan it out? I feel he is being somewhat insincere, even though people might say he's just a spontaneous person. I really can't help but feel disappointed and I think maybe he just wants an excuse to get the 2nd date over with so he can get in my pants or whatever.
So guys, if you really like a girl and want to pursue a relationship with her, would you carefully plan your dates or leave it to the moment?
Girls, do you expect your dates to plan where to have dinner at least?
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I didn't used to, until I came across a guy who did plan things out, and realized how attractive it was to me. I was pretty nervous about dating for a long while, and a major part of that was all of the uncertainty. I'm a very active participant later on in the dating game, but in the beginning, I find I'm a lot more feminine and fun when the guy is taking the lead. I'm subconsciously more serious and tense when he makes me.
Take it from a girl who has dated both recently. One who still wouldn't help plan the date just hours beforehand, and another guy who calls a week in advance with a fun idea. It's worth holding out for the guy that plans if that's what you really like. Some girls don't care all that much, but for me, I would dread the date if a guy just left it all up to me. It wasn't fun, and I started to look at him negatively. The guys who had it all planned out were instantly more attractive in my eyes.
We all have things that attract us to certain people/personality types. Don't feel like you have to settle if that's something that attracts you. For the longest time I thought I hated dating...until I started dating guys with a plan. Now I love it!