One of my acquaintances tried some matchmaking between one of his friends and me. This friend and I had then lunch together once, but I didn't feel any chemistry and I'm not interested.
Now he has asked me to go for lunch again. I don't want to be leading him on, but it also feels presumptious to say that I don't want to date, because officially, we are "just going for lunch".
How would you handle the situation?
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This might sound cliché, but being honest and upfront is probably your best option.
He's probably in his 40's, so he's a big boy. He can handle it.
You are also just in the introductory stage, so there's no real investment by either of you at this point. I don't think any hearts will be broken.
I would suggest just telling him that you're not feeling the chemistry. Don't be too specific - like don't say he's not attractive enough, or he's too forward, or too rude. Be general, because you're not trying to hurt his feelings or insult him. It's perfectly normal to not be attracted to someone.
I would also avoid doing this at lunch. If he thinks there is potential, he might take you to a nicer place and you'd have to deal with the awkward silence in a fancy restaurant. You might consider doing it on a casual meeting like coffee or over the phone. Don't text it to him. Nobody deserves that.3