I'm 20, and don't really have any sexual/dating experience (working through anxiety issues now). However, when I do get around the anxiety, develop interests, get a consistent group of friends, and become my confident self again, I really do need to get this experience, as I'm not getting any younger. The one question that really has me worried is when the experience question comes up on a date. If I avoid it, she's gonna get suspicious. If I try to explain it, I feel like it's going to be like disclosing a felony to an employer, ergo instant and absolute deal breaker. Either way, she'll find out in bed. What are my options? Do I try to find a girl who doesn't care (need A LOT of luck to find this, very few girls want to play "teacher") or do I cover it up/make up a story?
Avoiding the question of/explaining inexperience?
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honesty is the best policy because as you said if you do get to the intimacy stage they are going to find out pretty soon that you are inexperienced.
I think you presume that it's an absolute deal breaker but it's not really. sure some girls arent' interested in a person who is a virgin or inexperienced but plenty of women would appreciate that you are discrete in your choices and aren't just sleeping with anyone. they might even feel special/flattered that you would consider them a choice since you may appear to be selective in your partners0
You're like me. You're thinking waaaaaaay too much in to it. I know it's hard having anxiety and all but try to relax and just enjoy the moment. If that question comes up just kid about it and be done with it. You don't have to say anything, and as a matter of fact it's never could having such a loose tongue on a first, second, or even third date.
Sex usually for most people doesn't enter the picture until trust is established. Unless you're both totally on fire for each other I wouldn't put too much thought in to it if I were you.
It's best just to allow life to happen and react based the current situation. Otherwise you will scare yourself away from living at all!
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