I notice so many black girls (online aka on here) prefer white men, despite most white men not liking black girls. And then they come on here and ask if white men like black girls.
Guys who respond honestly get downvoted. But those who do respond honestly represent the majority of white men.
But in real life, most black girls aren't desperate to date white men like the black girls online.
Why is this?
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I don't know that 'so many' black girls prefer white guys. I think it has more to do with general desire of black women to be seen as attractive by all men ...if that makes sense. I don't think that they necessarily want white men but they want to know that they could be considered an option by white men. I'll make three specific points
1...I think I would feel very upset (and as a black man can relate) to know that some people categorically dislike or even hate you simply because of the color of your skin. It doesn't matter your character, personality, etc. And frankly it goes beyond simple girls liking boys (it applies to all forms of relationships) but since this site most often deals with romantic relationships it's the most common issue/question we may see relating to race.
2...I think there is also a common outlook by many (of all races) but especially pertinent to black women that a lot of black men make poor partners (they don't stick around, they are unfaithful, etc) and unfortunately statistics support this belief (more single black mothers, higher rates of black men incarcerated, etc). So if you are black woman and know that statistically and generally speaking a good black partner is harder to come by, then it would be natural to hope that generally and statistically speaking "better" partners might want to date you.
3...I read an article recently about interracial relationships and how they are becoming more common (in America) BUT the smallest number of interracial relationships consist of black women and white men. So I think when you see growing numbers of interracial relationships around you (and particularly of black men with white women) it is natural to wonder why there seems to be fewer black women and white male relatioships...and then ask why? and in a forum like GaG you can sort of poll the issue to see if there are white men who find black women attractive and it can lead to either a sense of hope (if you see positive responses) or disappointment (if you get negative responses) that while the number of interracial relationships is growing the number of black women partnered with white men is less prevalent
...being a human is tough, being a woman is tougher, and being a black woman (in my opinion) is the toughest. Heck John Lennon even said so ("Woman Is the N*gger of The World", so what would that make a black woman). I hesitate posting this and hope people understand it is just my opinion and written with the utmost sensitivity to all15
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