My boyfriend and I used to call and text eachother a lot in the beginning. Its fizzled down over the past couple months, but lately I've been going through a rough time with my family and have bern having mini panic attacks. And it gets worse because oftentimes, my boyfriend will completely ignore my calls or texts, which only makes me upset and I text more. The other nite, he told me that he ignores me because I'm so much drama and over the edge. Ouch. I reminded hom of how he was pretty annoying to me at his low point in life, but I was always here for him and never made it worse by ignoring him. So now, I only text when he does. Like this morning, he txt me "good morning" and I replied the same to him. And Haven't text or called him anymore. In a way, I hope he will miss me and hearing from me . But at the same time, I think maybe this ship needs to sail. Any advice?
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"I think maybe this ship needs to sail"
I completely 100% agree with you.
If a boyfriend doesn't know how to comfort you and care for you when you need it, then he is not the right person for you.
I was in your same exact situation, I have a lot of family problems, and just a lot of stuff I needed help with and it clashed with my relationship. I dated the guy for two years. About a year and a half in is when my family problems escalated and he got annoyed at me for increasingly wanting to talk to him, and he cheated on me (then he begged for a second chance when I stopped talking to him and I did (because I was an idiot) and then he ended up being a manipulative asshole who wanted me to support and do everything for him but I got nothing in return. Don't let that happen to you. Dump him when you have the chance. he doesn't deserve you. If a guy LOVED you he would be there for you no matter what, he would do anything to make you happy (at least if you are temporarily going through some rough stuff) and I know guys that are loving like that, they ARE out there. So don't feel dependent on him, if you do. If you were there for him, he should be there for you. I cannot stress how strongly I feel about this. If he's already expressing disinterest, he's probably going to break up with you. So I would just either prepare yourself or do it yourself, and really surround yourself with people that can listen to you when you're going through this stuff, and worst case scenario find a therapist, just because you shouldn't feel alone. And someday someone will appreciate you and treat you the way you should be treated.0