Is there any validity to the idea that you want someone more when they aren't interested in you?
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no. somone isn't into me, t only lose interest naturally, but its too absurd to try to be with someone who only likes you if they think you don't want them. at what point would you ever actually be in a relationship- never.
playing hard to get wrks if you want to keep playing or want sex. because oncr you get the person who enjoys you running form then, theyll lose interest unless yo start running again. pathetic waste of time.
anyhow I think heathy people lose interest in a person who couldn't car less. pat of what attracts us to others is an understanding a connection. without that its quite dull and unappealing.
uless you enjoy chasing people or being cased just for the sake of it. but that's not about wanting someone, its about wanting to 'want, and to perpetuate the feeling of want. lust. it makes you feel alive. its got nothing to do with actually wanting to be with someone.
like a dog chasing butterflies. they don't care much about it once they have it. but its exhilerating to try to getit. the btterfly itsef. its essence, holds little value to them.
if yo already care for someone you may worry more about losing them if they become distant. but there distanceisnt making you want thm, its just making you feel insecure about already having them. unless you're particularly healthy and can rise above their gams.0