i met this guy and he is the president of his fraternity. he's really really sweet to me. he holds my hand and kisses me in front of his brothers and he doesn't pressure me to have sex with him. (im a virgin). his friends seem to like me and whenever they see me out in the gym for instance, they would text the guy I'm talking to and tell him I was at the gym, and stuff like that. I pretty much get along with his friends. the problem is we have been hanging out a lot lately but recently he has been busy with frat stuff. I'm trying really hard to be supportive but I can't help but feel like he isn't making an effort to hang out with me. am I wrong for feeling this way? and how do I give him the space he needs to do frat stuff and yet not make him forget about me.
also when we hang out, we usually watch movies and cuddle or he would take me downtown to the bars. I want him to take me on a real date. how do I tell him without sounding whiny?
lastly, how do you bring up "the talk" with a guy without sounding desperate? what does it mean when a guy says he doesn't know what he's looking for? and how do you respond to that?
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You're not wrong, but you're also not understanding. This is why fraternity men tend to date sorority girls. They understand how time consuming it can be with study hours, chapter, dinners, brotherly activities, community service, meetings & conferences. They totally get that.
My boyfriend is in a fraternity & I'm a gdi. But I get that his fraternity is important to him. I usually see him at night and spend the night at his house. But I know that he has other commitments important to his life.
Ask him out on a date instead of expecting him to take you.1