my best guy friend has been drunk texting me a lot lately but he has a girlfriend so I'm not sure if that's bad or not. one time he drunk texted me and mentioned being horny, just now he drunk texted me saying he's wasted and wants me to go take care of him (which I can't because we are both home on winter break and in different states). usually I drunk text exes but lately he's been the person I've been drunk texting too. he also hangs all over me if we ever get drunk together. we've never done anything but I'm not sure if this is bad or not. I have no idea if he's drunk texting his girlfriend too but I'm just not sure if it's weird or not that he's texting me.
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my BEST friend is a girl, now I do not drink, and she RARELY does, but when she does, boyfriend or not, she calls me, I guess is a trust thing for us, and yeah, when I am feeling down or heartbroken I usually cuddle with her, and we are kind of, ridiculously honest, we trust each other with anything from sex life, to embarrasing or really weird things, or things that would make another person (even my male friends or her female ones) uncomfortable.
but while, not going to lie, talking with a CUTE girl about, say, weird sexual fetishes, or our hottest experiences, and yeah, sometimes it arises curiosity (among other things :P), but we are really just friends, and have been for years. I guess two thing are important here:
1.- is it mostly erotic? again, I do chat about sex intensly with my friend, like taboo free chats, but we also chat about anything else, and agin, private not sexual stuff, for instance, she would tell me, and JUST me about her struggles with alimantary disorders, and grafic, like not how you would talk with a man, like talking about making herself puke and stuff, or how it eventually make her stop menstruating. I think this kind of private stuff makes it different, like if a man really was interesting to you, you would probably not talk with him about those things, and even the sexual things, it is GREAT when you find a partner with whom you can talk about your DIRTIEST fantasdies, it is amazing, but even then, I guess, when you are in the "lets get to know each other" stage, you probably think twice about bringing "being abused in public" dreams you have had.
2.- perhaps the MOST important, again, whenever we are feeling down, or decieved, or hurt, we go to each others arms, and it would be sexual-ish except for the fact that we do NOT want it, again, we cuddle, and well I am a man and DO get a hard on, and she likes to hug with her legs or to have my face on her chest, and when we feel lonely we are always holding hands, or even being all touchy, but NEVER going truly romantic, and even less sexual, and that is because neither of us think of each other that way, and we have been, like you probably would if you had gone to take care of him, alone in a room, one of us (or both, see I do not drink but do get a davil may care attitude from time to time) has his/her judgement impaired, and still we do not end up fully going for it, and again, the body may WANT it, but our minds were CLEAR from confusion, we are friends, and never once ignored that fact, but MAYBE, if one of us had been like "what if?" then "if" would have already happened, again, a relationship like ours is HARD to find, so RATIONALLY has crossed my mind, but nope, she is my FRIEND and FRIEND only, but if it were like "we are both in one of those days, alone and hesitating about our true relationship´" it may happen, but luckily, we are both in the same friendship page.
if one or both of things are true, it MAY be that kind of frindship, else, is sex.0