Best guy friend has a girlfriend but drunk texts me all the time?

[Anonymous]

my best guy friend has been drunk texting me a lot lately but he has a girlfriend so I'm not sure if that's bad or not. one time he drunk texted me and mentioned being horny, just now he drunk texted me saying he's wasted and wants me to go take care of him (which I can't because we are both home on winter break and in different states). usually I drunk text exes but lately he's been the person I've been drunk texting too. he also hangs all over me if we ever get drunk together. we've never done anything but I'm not sure if this is bad or not. I have no idea if he's drunk texting his girlfriend too but I'm just not sure if it's weird or not that he's texting me.

[worzt]

my BEST friend is a girl, now I do not drink, and she RARELY does, but when she does, boyfriend or not, she calls me, I guess is a trust thing for us, and yeah, when I am feeling down or heartbroken I usually cuddle with her, and we are kind of, ridiculously honest, we trust each other with anything from sex life, to embarrasing or really weird things, or things that would make another person (even my male friends or her female ones) uncomfortable.

but while, not going to lie, talking with a CUTE girl about, say, weird sexual fetishes, or our hottest experiences, and yeah, sometimes it arises curiosity (among other things :P), but we are really just friends, and have been for years. I guess two thing are important here:

1.- is it mostly erotic? again, I do chat about sex intensly with my friend, like taboo free chats, but we also chat about anything else, and agin, private not sexual stuff, for instance, she would tell me, and JUST me about her struggles with alimantary disorders, and grafic, like not how you would talk with a man, like talking about making herself puke and stuff, or how it eventually make her stop menstruating. I think this kind of private stuff makes it different, like if a man really was interesting to you, you would probably not talk with him about those things, and even the sexual things, it is GREAT when you find a partner with whom you can talk about your DIRTIEST fantasdies, it is amazing, but even then, I guess, when you are in the "lets get to know each other" stage, you probably think twice about bringing "being abused in public" dreams you have had.

2.- perhaps the MOST important, again, whenever we are feeling down, or decieved, or hurt, we go to each others arms, and it would be sexual-ish except for the fact that we do NOT want it, again, we cuddle, and well I am a man and DO get a hard on, and she likes to hug with her legs or to have my face on her chest, and when we feel lonely we are always holding hands, or even being all touchy, but NEVER going truly romantic, and even less sexual, and that is because neither of us think of each other that way, and we have been, like you probably would if you had gone to take care of him, alone in a room, one of us (or both, see I do not drink but do get a davil may care attitude from time to time) has his/her judgement impaired, and still we do not end up fully going for it, and again, the body may WANT it, but our minds were CLEAR from confusion, we are friends, and never once ignored that fact, but MAYBE, if one of us had been like "what if?" then "if" would have already happened, again, a relationship like ours is HARD to find, so RATIONALLY has crossed my mind, but nope, she is my FRIEND and FRIEND only, but if it were like "we are both in one of those days, alone and hesitating about our true relationship´" it may happen, but luckily, we are both in the same friendship page.

if one or both of things are true, it MAY be that kind of frindship, else, is sex.

[Rxpxguy]

I agree with funki. The reason he only does it when he's drunk though is because alcohol makes you have no regard for your own morals. While sober he wants to be faithful to his girlfriend but when he gets drunk he doesn't care if he cheats on her. I know this is not part of the question but my advice is that if you're interested in him, he is clearly interested in you. Talking to him doesn't really cross any lines as far as infidelity goes but you should wait until he's sober and talk to him about everything. You can get a more accurate reading of what he really wants. Just make sure he knows why you're asking.

[FlyingTurtle]

It's probably because he finds you extremely attractive and reacts to this perception when his inhibitions are lowered. It sounds to me that when he's sober he can acknowledge he thinks you're attractive but he is with someone else and is loyal to her so he isn't going to get all over you while sober.

[funkipunk]

He's attracted to you, and probably wants to hook up with you. Whoever's on a guy's mind when he's drunk is the girl he really wants to be with, whether this means girlfriend or the girl he has sex with. If this consistently happens where he wants to be with you when drunk, and drunk texts you, it means he definitely likes you.

My honest guess is that he finds you hot, and wants to hook up with you some time because he finds you so hot

[funkipunk]

It's kind of classless on his part since he has a girlfriend though. That whole part makes it kinda screwed up.

[Chris011]

He wants to sleep with you obviously. I say ignore his drunk texts.. or tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable when he drunk texts you and for him to stop.

"Trust me, I'm a guy.. I know what he is up to."

[blackeagle007]

(long sigh) Forget him, he has a girlfriend. Why can't you meet a guy that is single?

[Asker]

um he and I have been best friends for almost 4 years aka way before he got a girlfriend. why can't I be friends with someone who isn't single? you're lacking logic...

[Anonymous]

He wants the v