I'm 18, the guy I've been seeing is 26. I don't notice any age gap , but I'm not sure if he does. Am I too young? We have already slept together.
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That's not the question you should be asking. What you should be asking yourself is "do he and I relate; do we have enough in common to make one life out of two; is his greater life experience and my youthful naivety/lack of wisdom something that will/is being used against me; can I trust him; is this just lust or is it actually love; did I sleep with him for fun, or because I feel something more for him; do either of us know how to make this work or at the very least have the love, care and patience, for one another to give it everything we have even if we don't know how to make it work at this time; is he with me for the sex and because of my young age, or because he sees something in me that he loves and wants to keep". "26 ain't old, heck I think age is just a number. If he was like say 40 years old or older it would be too old." -art84. If age were just a number it wouldn't matter at ANY point, but it does, it affects people's ability to connect, are there cases of 18 year olds with more wisdom, knowledge, and life experience than 30 year olds, maybe, but is that generally the case, no.
What people tend to ignore or have forgotten over time is what makes for strong compatibility and life long companionship and powerful relationships is being able to connect and understand one another. The intelligent seek the intelligent, the uneducated are more comfortable with the uneducated, those from one ethnic/cultural background have an easier time relating to those of similar/the same background.
The question isn't if he's too old for you as much as it is if you two can relate enough to share a bound, if you have enough in common to keep a relationship together without one of you using, manipulating or hurting the other. It's about if both of you are actually ready for what is coming. Also, if you already slept with him without knowing these things or asking these questions, why? Do you lack sound judgment, does he lack sound judgment or is this just about the lust between you two that holds you together right now? There are far more important questions you should have been asking yourself before you came to this point.
Good luck and best wishes.1