So I went to lunch with a guy I'm kinda crushing on. I think I've read all the signs right, he seemed attracted and nervous and genuinely interested. But I messed up and told him I had a date that night. He kept asking me about the date throughout the night and when we parted, told me to have fun. Well, it's been a few days since then and he hasn't texted me or chatted me up. I like him, and feel like I scared him off by telling him about my date. I want him to ask me out, but I have a feeling he won't. What do you think he is thinking about me? How can I fix this?
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There is a large chance that you did mess it up.
Personally I wouldn't bother anymore with a girl I knew was dating other guys. There's plenty more girls out there. Why should I have to share one? I might put up with it, if it was a friendship with benefits. But if there's no sex involved, only the prospect of possible sex in the future, I don't really see the point. I certainly couldn't ever have a serious relationship with her. And I wouldn't date her.
In fact, recently, one girl had a serious crush on me. I was going to ask her out. But then I learned she was dating other guys. So I didn't ask her out. And now she's upset.
The only possible way to fix this (and I'm being totally serious) is to have sex with him. Guys interpret willingness to have sex as a sign of affection. He probably assumes that you're having sex with these other guys.