Should a younger woman date an older guy (both legal adults) if she's never been in a relationship before?
What if the guy is also inexperienced, does that influence anything?
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I'm experienced, and I'm 30. People often say that I look younger, and I try to keep up with what's trendy with the younger crowd at the moment. At the moment I have something going on with a girl that's 23. I feel very comfortable interacting with people that are 10 years younger than me, I'm vocal and I both know how to be serious and fun.
I'm just going to completely honest. Younger girls are easy. Often they're a bit insecure, and I often get the remark that I make people feel safe. I'm not condoning older guys serially dating younger girls here, though. But yeah, we're guys, you know?
How I feel about dating younger, inexperienced girls?
If the girl is vocal and extravert, she'll probably have experience. If she's shy and timid, chances are she'll have less experience. If she's vocal: she'll speak up if she's not happy with the situation. If she has experience, she knows how a relationship works and what she'll accept and what she doesn't. Inexperienced and/or timid girls don't have this, and I'll get the feeling that I'm controlling them, or -better said- that I CAN control them. I like being the dominant force in a protective kind of way, not in a controlling kind.
I also feel like stealing part of her youth. Experience, both bad and good, are parts of life. Sure, I know how to handle the situation and minimalize her hurt if I should break up with her, but maybe she needs the life lesson of getting her heart broken by a silly 20 year old. I'm taking this all away from her.
Also: sex. Experience is good.
So: my conclusion: I don't think the combination of an older guy with a girl that is both inexperienced, young and timid is a good one.
Every other combination could work, though.
PS: we're talking about a 10+ age difference here, right?1
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