I'm living with my boyfriend and he seems to want a lot of time to himself-a little too much. We have been having problems and after we argue he goes off and doesn't talk to me until I decide to talk to him or work things out. He says that he doesn't want to kiss up to me. So we talked about it and things had been going on really good. I did everything he asked me to. I go out and watch him play his video games which he already played and won and can't seem to get enough of. I exercise with him and basically try to keep things good between us. Overall, I am not sure if I'm the only one trying but all I literally want it to be loved you know. I want to be cuddled and he always comes up with an excuse not to cuddle me or hold me. He rarely talks sweet to me like he used to. He only seems to do these things when he wants to have sex. I don't know what to do we've talked about it and I do everything in my part to make the relationship run smoother. He literally does not have to do anything besides what a feel a boyfriend should do. Do you guys have any advice? How do I get him to be interested in me? Is he loosing interest? Am I not important to him anymore? Why doesn't he want to cuddle me or talk sweet to me anymore?
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He is losing interest and thus distancing himself from you as the result of the disagreements. The fact is, guys find it very difficult to get cozy, and romantic with women whom they have recurring, emotional, heated arguments with.
But of course, many will argue that guys are stronger than women and have a higher threshold for pain, etcetera. But in reality guys are not emotionally adept to handle dramatic situations as women are, which is evident in our preference to internalize our feelings during difficult times in our personal relationships, as opposed to communicating as women are known. Consequently, guys tend to want to rid ourselves of the stress by being alone or away from our partner, which includes being much less affectionate, attentive, and complimentary towards her until the issues are resolved. Hence his behavior.
By the way, that may or may not include sex (depending on the guy.
To get the relationship back on track, which includes the romance, communicate with him in a peaceful, monotonous manner when at possible. Even if that requires either party to walk away from one another to calm down before you revisit discussing your issues with each other.