This seems to happen a lot with me. Like I'll go on a date with a guy and then I'll be chatting with him via text and he'll mention having sex with me. Not outright, but it'll be like "I'm in bed right now. You're welcome to join me. We can burn a lot of calories."
I don't find that amusing and when he mentions it right away I automatically think he's just wanting sex from me and nothing more. I'm pretty old fashioned and like to be intimate only when I am ready. Which can take quite a few dates.
I'm just disillusioned by the fact that it seems that most guys want instant gratification. They're not willing to court a girl and take thins slow.
Anyone else feel this way? Like, I figure if the guy likes you enough, he'll wait and not pressure you. I mean, isn't that true?
For me, any mention of sex too early is just an instant turnoff for me.
I guess I have this instant suspicion that he's in it to use me.
It's at least 3 dates for me before I'm willing to discuss it. Actually, it shouldn't even be a discussion...it should be a one-thing-leads-to-another kind of thing.
And it is the biggest turnoff ever when he suggests that he wants ME to come over to his place TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM.
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I totally feel the same way.
It's like, once we've lost our virginity guys consider we've lost our standards and need for romance too.
The only way to find out if a guy is serious is to make him wait for a month or more before sex. (And when I say sex, I don't necessarily mean HAVING sex)0