This is my first boyfriend. I'm 23 & he will be 23 in a couple months. He has had 2 girlfriends before me - both treated him like literal dogcrap. We "met" on an online dating website and talked on there for about a month. Then we first met at a NFL game (my folks had 4 tickets & I have no siblings - he had no objections to going with us!) We had a blast and went on a couple more dates before we became official. We've been official for about a month and a half...he already talks about...2-3 years down the road proposing/getting married and 2-3 years after that having kids! We both seem to have a good head on his shoulders - both know how to work for what we want, similar dreams of the future...we communicate well - talk about a lot of stuff & he's so patient with me. :)
What are some things that I can talk to him about to find out if he'd be a good hubby? I mean...we've only been going out for a month. all we see are good things. How can I see or get hint if "bad things" or "issues"?
Is it possible to have the "feeling" that you could spend the rest of your life with "this guy" so soon?
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well first just pump the brakes a bit. honestly I'm happy that you seem so happy and having been in bad relationships I can say yours sounds like it's a solid one moving in the right right direction...that said it ahs only been a few months so marriage should probably be a bit down the line.
that said envision what you want your future with your partner to be like nad you could just ask questions along those lines
would you want any potential wife to work or would you expect to stay at home?
think of things you want to do in your life and see if he wants to do similar things...travel, excercise, etc.
you just want to try and see if you long term ideas match, mesh or at least don't conflict with yours. all your goals may not be identical but if oyu start seeing lots of important similarities in your long term desires it's a good sign about your relationship...
another good test is when things go a bit rocky, which relationships inevitably wil, how the two of you are able to work through it. conflict resolution and dealing with tough scenarios are great for insight into how you two might work together through the ups and downs of life.
congrats on your new relationship. all the best for 2014...for some reason (maybe because 4 is my favorite number) I think 2014 is going to be a good year for everyone1