I'm a senior in college, just about to start my final semester. I'm really interested in a guy and he seems to like me too. The problem is that graduation is just around the corner, and I know that long distance isn't an option. Should I go for it anyway, knowing that there's a 99% chance that I'm going to get hurt, or should I save myself the heartache?
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I think a change of perspective is needed here.
What gives something value is not the fact that you will have something forever. It's quite the opposite. The very fact you only have this short window of opportunity for a specific experience makes it so much more valuable. What causes you to feel hurt is the fact that you are trying to make this fleeting moment into an eternal moment. And when you can't do that then you say "screw it. I will only get hurt".
It's similar to saying something like:
"This chocolate cake will not last forever so what is the point of even eating it if the enjoyment from it will only last for a moment? And if I despite that would decide to eat it I would then feel so hurt and disappointed over the fact that the chocolate cake no longer exists."
So my advice to you is to enjoy every moment life can bring you. Doesn't matter is it's a minute, day or a lifetime. The value comes from the experience itself and not the amount of time you experience it.2