This guy and I have only been official for a little bit over two months, and we seem to have a pretty solid thing going on. However, lately he's been on his phone a ton when we're together. He always angles it away from me and makes sure I can't see the screen and locks it as soon as he sends his text messages. Sometimes I jokingly ask him who he's texting and he'll never give a straight answer. I know it might sound like I'm overreacting, but in the beginning, he used to never pull his phone out and he always talked about how much he hates communicating through electronics. But see, now he's communicating a lot all the time and to people who aren't me. He barely ever tries to text me or takes initiative to call, so it's kind of offensive that all of a sudden someone else is getting way more attention and he's actually taking the initiative to communicate with them in ways that he never did with me. And I mean this would be absolutely FINE if he weren't so paranoid about me ever touching or seeing the screen of his phone. He wants me and his phone to be far far away from each other, and I've never even tried to snoop or acted like I was going to.
Also, I'm just particularly freaking out tonight because he is going clubbing without me (I asked to tag along and wasn't invited) and I know he's going to be drinking and such so it's not like he'll be making sober decisions regarding other girls who would enjoy dancing on him so yeah fun times everybody.
ANYWAYS am I overreacting or are these actual signs of sketchiness and am I probably getting cheated on right now or like have you had these kinds of experiences and what were the outcomes? Thanksssss.
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Honestly, I am not a huge fan of girls snooping and being really overdramatic and not giving their gus any privacy, but that is completely not what you are doing. You seem like you are respecting his privacy probably more than he deserves, and I think your worries are completely reasonable. It is very strange for him to completely 180 on his behavior from the start til now, and also go against what he says he dislikes. The fact that he never lets you see his screen while he is texting, and will not actually tell you who he is texting, even when you jokingly ask, if fishy. Those are the kinds of things a guy would be doing if he was at least texting and flirting with other girls. There is always the possbility he is setting up some huge romantic gesture, but I would only figure that if you had been dating for years.
So long story short, after I typed a long story, I can't say if he is cheating on you, or cheating on you at the club, but I think your worries are completely justified and you do not have to feel like a "snooping bitch" or anything that a guy might call you in that situation once he is confronted.0
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