In getting to know a someone, dating and just generally getting to someone if your interested in them, how much is too much info?
I'm a real firm believer in more or less throwing it all out there in what I want/am looking for from a woman. But I realize most if not close to all can't handle it or maybe its the honesty they can't handle and they want to play games, I don't know for sure. But I rather be honest than be lied to and disappointed down the road and would expect the same in return.
So how much info is too much? For example say your doing the online dating thing and you know you don't want kids and don't want to get married do you mention it in the profile or wait to meet (if it happens) to tell the woman?
How far is too far in a dating profile? Maybe you have a 3rd nipple, a tail, you have reached crazy cat person status in your neighborhood, your addicted to online gaming, your hairy, have a crazy mole that looks like the state of Florida on your back, or some other physical feature or personality quirk that may turn someone off because in this day in age everyone seems to be beyond obsessed with the physical and ones personality doesn't matter so they can't deal. Now of course some of those traits I am blowing out of the norm but you get the idea.
So how much is too much info?
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You have to let the information flow in a natural and progressive way, for three reasons:
1) Keeping a certain mistery: keeping her guessing about you and let her be the one to make the questions.
2) Too much info means the person that will go on a date won't feel special...every other women that read your profile or have a first date with you will know as much as her. We like to feel that you like us better or trust us above others, even if it's not true at first, it's a warm sensation,
3) Heavy info like "I don't want kids" or "i'm not religious" is something that might scare away the love of your life. This is the kind of things you say after connecting emotionally at some level. I mean it might be an exclusion factor before she knoes you, but after she knows you she might think: though I don't agree, I really like to know this guy, and I'd like to know him better before throwing hime off because of this.
Some specific examples:
- Say where you work and what you do but don't bore her with technical details and don't start with the problems and unfair things that happen there;
- You can mention previous relationships (like: I had 2 serious relantionships) but don't give them names or specific details, like why that ended, if she doesn ask.
- You can talk about your family, but not go deep into the problems in your family or that relative you don't like.
- Don't talk about religion, political views, view on marriage or kids.
Mostly leave out negative stuff, problems for the first few contacts or talk about them lightly, or polemic issues, and give details as you go deeper into the dating or your relationship.
At some point, if it the right person (or one of the right persons you'll meet in your lovelife) you'll get to the point you both share eveything and it will be so much special because you don't do it with everyone :)
At first, talk about: your hobbies, how you spend your time, stuff you like, talk positevely about your family and friends, share funny stories about a trip with your friens or something like that...and make a lot of questions. Women like to hear, but LOVE to talk :D
Good luck ;)1