I'm on an online dating site but I don't have my picture up. I've been corresponding with this man, who is well-educated. The convo was going good -- he is smart and fun to talk to.
I eventually gave him my pic (which was a standard non-sexual selfie). He said I was pretty. I then said thanks and innocently told him that I thought he was pretty hot. Then he asked me "what turns me on"...I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and said, "a gentleman. And other things but I'll leave it at that".
He said, Fair enough and asked me on a date to get to know each other better. I said I would like to but I was making it clear that I am not that "type of girl". He said that was far from his mind...Is he speaking the truth? Or is this a disaster waiting to happen? Cause I really am not that "type of girl"
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If someone is looking for a serious long term relationship then I think it would be strange if every topic came up besides anything sexual. I think most people agree that sexual compatibility is a major factor for a functional long term relationship.
Maybe he's a creep, who knows.
But instead of automatically assume the worst then perhaps another perspective could be the opposite. Perhaps he is trying to be serious, and responsible and not waste either of your time and trying to find out if your sexual preferences is compatible.
So instead of spending 4 months getting to know each other just to discover that your sexual preferences are way off and there is no middle ground. Then he instead cut to the chase and tried to figure you out. Figure out ALL of your aspects.
Personally, humor and sexuality is what tells me a lot about a person. I couldn't care less about their education, job or how much money they make and such. They are still the same person no matter what job they have.
Maybe it's because I'm Swedish but asking someone about their sexual preferences is not something weird or creepy. That's part of getting to know someone. There is of course more or less classy ways to talk about those things.
Like I said. Maybe he is a shallow creep, I don't know.
All I'm saying is to not jump to negative conclusions to fast.0