I was watching a movie with a pretty close male friend last night. It was Titanic, which is obviously considered a really romantic movie, but it was just what we happened to pick. He and I were watching it together on his couch in his dorm, and towards the end of the movie, where it gets sad, he was like, "oh, no" and put his arm around me, and kind of cuddled with me through the rest of the film. I kept my knee up as sort of a barrier, and kind of sat with my mouth covered the whole time, just to omit the possibility of him making a move or anything of that sort. After the movie, we were walking around, and he was asking me what girls like, in terms of hooking up. Among my answers was 'spontaneity.' When I explained that, he said, "like this?" and leaned down as if he were going to kiss me. I wasn't sure if he was doing it jokingly or not, so I kind of pushed him away and was like, "yeah, just like that bud."
I think it seems like he likes me, though he usually isn't like this around me. I only have platonic feelings for him...should I say something to make sure he knows that I see him only as a friend, or am I over reacting and he was joking around? I don't want to lead him on. Thanks, guys!
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In my experience with "puppy dog love," he now has a crush on you---HIS "close female friend." Maybe it just didn't happen over nite, maybe it did, and maybe even it was coming on, but you "missed the boat,' to sort of speak. If you are not returning his affection, and "pushing him away" like jokingly, I do believe he will get the hint and just stop being so spontaneous. I don't think it will take "any rocket scientist" to figure out that you don't feel the same way, so just go on as usual, don't lead him on in ANY way, and if he still tries to "reach out to you," and you are not feeling comfortable about your "friendly hook up nites," then slowly back down and away, and don't get cozy on the couch, but do something together less "cuddly". I think that if you would just out and out tell your close bud that you want to be platonic, it may sink your friendship just like the "Titanic."1