It seems as though ever since my first relationships, I've always given a little too much of myself to the guys I've dated. At the time, I love doing it, whether it be buying them gifts or giving myself to them too soon, I always feel like its a good thing, and that they will love me more for it. And of course, it always backfires.
It never really became a major issue to me until recently, I had an experience with this guy I dated where he went behind my back and started seeing his ex girlfriend. That hurt me, but it didn't really hurt me as much as I thought it would have. I broke things off, but when he came crawling back, I let him back into my life. And who knows? He could be up to the same tricks, and now it really does hurt.
I just don't understand why I've been so desperate for love and affection, even to this degree. My friends and family all tell me that I'm a beautiful young girl and that I should have my pick of the litter, but all I want is for one person to love me the way I know I can love them. The psychologist in me says it has a lot to do with my "dad issues" and how he was never around. I'm just wondering how I can get past this and have healthy relationships that are equally beneficial.
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Dump your current guy. The one that went back to his ex and came crawling back. It's not worth it to me, and you can start doing something about it today. Stop letting guys have a sexual relationship with you too soon. That's a big step in the right direction. When you do that, you filter out the guys who are after you just for sex. No guy is sane enough to go on 2-3 months of dating with no sex. Learn to be patience, to say no when you must, and that love is never easy and must require a lot of work. If you try to find it the easy way, it's almost always never really love to begin with.3