I have been dating my boyfriend of 6 months through plenty of fish (dating site.) I had been single for 9 years and he had never had much luck with ladies (confirmed by his family.) well he seemed to have fallen for me pretty quick and told me he loved me after only one month of dating. Well 6 months down the line and thinking things are moving along nicely and him talking about us moving in 2gether at some point this yr, I decided to Check if he was still on pof.com, to my horror he was still on there and had been online in the last few days. I then decided to make up a fake profile and message him, he did message me back while staying at my house while I was at work! He said he wasn't up for meeting ransoms and that he didn't come across many head turners like her (fake profile) very often. I'm not sure how to confront him as I have in the past about his profile still being on there, I deleted mine after 2 months of dating and he told me he had deleted his too! I'm so hurt, on one hand I hey that he is still pretty new to the dating scene and wants to see what else is out there but I have a feeling I'm gonna get hurt! Please can you send me to advise
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Advise? Keep dating him but stop thinking he's the one or that you're going to move in together.
He is a desperate first timer who felt that life was passing him by. You're not his first choice of girl, you're his ONLY choice. So he's moving along checking the check boxes that he thinks men and women are supposed to fill in. (Such as saying he loves you and moving in together, and eventually marriage and kids.) But he doesn't feel about you the way that you would like him to.
He might, eventually. But he's being dishonest about his feelings now because he's afraid to lose you and be single again.
It's quite possible that because he sucks so bad at dating, that he has no real understanding of what feelings are like in a relationship. Maybe he was raised on too many disney movies, like girls are, and he's waiting to be blown away and swept off his feet by a Jennifer Aniston look alike. Or Zoey Deschanel's manic pixie girl.
A few years of dating real women and he'd realize those fantasies are full of shit. But he hasn't had those few years of experience.
He's not a bad guy. He's a confused guy who doesn't understand why he doesn't feel with you, what he thinks he should be feeling with you.0
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