Advise? Keep dating him but stop thinking he's the one or that you're going to move in together.
He is a desperate first timer who felt that life was passing him by. You're not his first choice of girl, you're his ONLY choice. So he's moving along checking the check boxes that he thinks men and women are supposed to fill in. (Such as saying he loves you and moving in together, and eventually marriage and kids.) But he doesn't feel about you the way that you would like him to.
He might, eventually. But he's being dishonest about his feelings now because he's afraid to lose you and be single again.
It's quite possible that because he sucks so bad at dating, that he has no real understanding of what feelings are like in a relationship. Maybe he was raised on too many disney movies, like girls are, and he's waiting to be blown away and swept off his feet by a Jennifer Aniston look alike. Or Zoey Deschanel's manic pixie girl.
A few years of dating real women and he'd realize those fantasies are full of shit. But he hasn't had those few years of experience.
He's not a bad guy. He's a confused guy who doesn't understand why he doesn't feel with you, what he thinks he should be feeling with you.
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he's probably already or is still looking to meet someone else. my opinion. next time you are with him just open up your fake account and show him the correspondence and ask him to explain it.
It doesn't matter if he is new on the dating scene or not honesty is honesty and he shows a lack of it...makes maybe realize why he's had bad "luck" with women...
I think that you need to decide if this is what you want going forward because more than likely it's not going to change. but I would want to see if he would at least be honest with things when directly confronted.
as others have said the red flags are flying high and fast on this one. I'd probably be done as this is a very explicit act of dishonesty
Omg that is horrifying. There is a serious lack of respect for the relationship by him. Why would he be so serious with you and still trying to pick up girls? Wtf.. Yeah I would say make it a HUGE deal by having a serious conversation with him. I don't know if he just wants to flirt with these girls or hook up or wtf but that is messed up. What a mindfuck
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1 he lied to you and said he deleted his account = HURT
2 he said he's committed to you and wants to move in but yet is on POF in your home = HURT
3 he answered and flirted with your fake profile on POF = Cheating = HURT
You realize he is already basicly cheating on youThat is a nice collection of red flags.
I'd say casually show him your fake profile the next time you're both around the computer, see him shit his pants, and break up ;)He's planning or already has cheated. You need to show him your fake profile immediately.
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