So it's a little late for these answers to do me much good, but maybe by asking the question I can help other struggling and confused men out there.
I'm not *only* asking about how we should know at the end of a date, after we've walked you to your door. A kiss isn't always wanted then, but it's traditional enough that both sides know to watch each other for clues.
Please do share what clues you're sending at that time.
But also in other situations: say you've been hanging out together, you're both unattached and there might be some chemistry - the guy thinks there is but he can't read your mind, and it wasn't an actual date.
It's a very stressful, high-stakes moment for a guy.
If I lean in and try to kiss her, and she welcomes it, I've done it. If not though, and she pulls away, I'm finished. If I don't do this now, will I get another chance? or is she waiting for me to kiss her now, and if I don't will she give up on me and move on?
I mean, we're talking only chance, now-or-never, we're either damned if we do or we're damned if we don't kind of moment here.
I realize that you may not be sure yourself in some situations if you want to be kissed or not, but once you're reached that point you're possibly open to the idea.
Are there any hints we should (in my case, should have, back in the day) pay attention too?
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Be conscious of her personality and if she seems like the kind to make things awkward even in...awkward situations. If you go in for the kiss and she was either not expecting it and caught off guard, there's no reason things should be nipped in the bud over it. The sooner things get physical on your part then the deal is sealed, and I don't mean with just sex. That's how so many men get caught up in the friendzone because when the opportunity presented itself, the man didn't just go in fearless and us women don't forget it. Good luck.2