Been dating a guy now for a little over a month. He always talked about his friend Nicole.. I had an odd feeling about it but I ignored it because I have plenty of guy friends and I understand, And I'm not the jealous type. . Well, Last night I found out a lot of stuff and I'd like to hear what other people think... How would you feel? What would you say? Would you continue to date him..
He met her two years ago. They hang out every single weekend and talk everyday. He said "shes the best, she goes with the flow and loves going out , plus she always drives"... Said that yeah she comes over and they hang out, watch movies, or whatever, he claims she wants to play with his dog.. She also wants a relationship with him but he said that now she has accepted that he doesn't want the same thing. But they do things like dinner and happy hour together.. and everything I guess. sounds like a dating relationship without the sex..that he also claims never happen... Also, Apparently he dated a girl over the summer and Nicole hated everything about her.. ha of course she hated her.
I told him I'm not comfortable with dating a man you has a woman he already treats like a girlfriend. He said that If I prove myself to be "the one" that I would be the one there doing everything with him.. and everything would fall into place...And then he says he feels that I am the one for him.. lmao... thoughts?
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this doesn't sound like a great situation
Chris Rock has a bit in his old stand up about how women usually keep a guy around just in case. He called it "dick in a box" or something and that it's like a fire alarm if she had to, all she did was break the glass and used it. It sounds like this is what the guy is doign with this girl. He probably doesn't have deep romantic feelings for her but she is an 'if all else fails' option. If he truly likes you he should see how this relationship may impact you and rather than give you an ultimatum (step up or she stays) he'd try and be empathetic.
I get having female friends. I have them and wouldn't want my girlfriend to try and squash them, but this clearly goes a step beyond platonic friendship, and the nail in the coffin is that she has romantic feelings for him. so she is always going to be a voice in his head subverting his romantic relationships.
I'd beware...this sounds like a red flag1