Girls always say how good looking and physically attractive I am but they won't date me! And the worst part it that they won't tell me why they won't! So girls opinions? I'm not cocky or anything in not shy but not very loud but like wtf?
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With my experience with guys, sweetie, and yes---girls' way of thinking---many girls who see a "hot to trot" guy feel intimidated by him, coy, rather "uncomfy", due to the fact they feel a bit "inferior, insecure" to be around someone they see as having a "narcissistic nature." I, for one, am to blame myself for this. I have always been considered to be great looking and "hot" myself, although it's just "anyone's opinion." I only see ME as an average girl, with good skin and nice eyes. That's MY opinion..:))
Whenever I have been asked out by a "hottie", I have accepted, but did feel a bit "shaky" because I knew I had to look my best, be my best, and anything less, would be just "humiliating" with someone who I knew "expected more" from me. I may have been honored to "be on his arm," but I had to "Play the part" because like some China doll, I was afraid I might break. Yes, I have always been myself, but also had to be---"someone else." Hard to explain...
The same when some "average joe" is on "my arm." He feels nervous as a cat on a hot tin roof," and this in turn, can make things feel a bit "awkward."
However, with all the guys I have been with, it's always really been just a matter of chemistry and self assurance that makes things not so"cocky nor shy."
Getting back to you, sweetie, this is the way I feel about these girls who "won't date" you. It's just a question of them not having enough self assurance about themselves, whether or not they are a "beauty or a beast,' to put it mildly. Scared they might do the wrong thing, say the wrong word, and "fail miserably." On the other hand, maybe they also think, you might just want to "bate for booty instead of brains." Maybe if you would turn on your "not cocky or anything not shy and not loud side" of yourself, added to a little "natural charm and charisma," things might take a "double take,' and you'll have one one of the "on your arm" in no time.:))xx0